Today’s Question(s) of the Day for 12/11/2019
I can’t think of any such thing right now. But, over the years when something like that would arise, prayer has been one of the first things I do. Also, I try to think it through and analyze why it has become a frustration. And then also discuss this with DW in a careful, sensitive, and frank manner.
Pray first , then think about what to say in the most constructive and non-hurtful way, and then consider the timing. A good time is when you are not having conflict. A bad time is when you’re arguing. The worst time is when you are having sex.
The only real issue of sexual frustration I have dealt with in our marriage is when we get in a cycle where we just aren’t doing it enough. Generally I have failed to pray first. I tend to just go straight to DH and say, “Hey! This is bad! We need more sex!” He says, “I agree!” and we either make a change, or have the same conversation again a little later. (Maybe the prayer first would help us make the change sooner.) I don’t know why it never occurred to me to pray about lack of sex. I also can’t bring myself to pray when I’m on the toilet, unless it’s an emergency. Silly, ingrained, mistaken thinking I guess.