Today’s Question(s) of the Day for 9/9/2019
“For Men Only” and “For Women Only” by Shaunti Feldhahn, were books that helped me understand myself and men.
Other than that, I have not found a book on the topic that I have had any desire to waste my time on finishing reading. I have started multiple recommended books, but they weren’t my thing.
The book that had the greatest impact on my marriage, and led to the dramatic turning point that got us on the right track, was “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans.
The other books that played a significant role were “Why Marriages Succeed and Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last” and “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman.
John Gottman taught me how to communicate effectively without triggering defensiveness and how to listen non-defensively, and Patricia Evans taught me where I needed to set the boundaries.
More recently, “How We Love” by Milan and Kay Yerkovich has been teaching me how to minister emotionally to my husband in new ways that have made a significant difference.
CELEBRATION OF SEX is good. My wife and I have also read many others including CRAZY GOOD SEX….HOT MAMA…PASSION PURSUIT…INTIMACY IGNITED…INTIMATE ISSUES… THE LANGUAGE OF SEX and several more.
SHE COMES FIRST is a great book by a secular author solely on cullingus.
When it comes to 2nd marriages, I HIGHLY recommend anything by Ron Deal on stepfamilies & step-parenting. They should be required reading BEFORE a couple gets engaged for a second time. (We almost stopped dating because of them because there is a lot of tough roads and HARD work ahead.) We keep going back to them 3 yrs in for reminders, help and encouragement that when we preserver the rewards will come yrs later.
Currently reading The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Gottman and it is AMAZING! Although I was married 33 years the first time I am learning a lot in preparation for my second marriage.
Love and Respect by Eggerichs totally changed my first marriage!
5 Love Languages by Chapman – get the book from the library and learn your spouses language!
5 Languages of Apology by Chapman – WOW this was powerful in my first marriage! I spent 25 years assuming he had a hard time forgiving and it turned out I wasn’t apologizing properly. Once I did he melted! Amazing! So much is spoken about regarding love languages but few mention this one, yet arguments can be toxic in a relationship. You can also get this from the library and read it once. No need to own it.
31 days to great sex by shiela Gregoie
xes why church girls get it backward by joy mcmillan
The sexually confident wife by Shannon Ethridge
Have a new sex life by friday by Dr Kevin Leman
Sex and the Supremacy of CHrist by John Piper and Justin Taylor
Enjoy! the gift of sexual pleasure for women by Joyce penner and clifford penner
THe Married guy’s guide to great sex by Joyce penner and clifford penner
Celebrating sex in your marriage by Dan and Sandra Mcgee
To Love Honor and Vaccumr by Shiela Gregoire
Intimacy revealed by J. Parker
Songs in the key of Solomon by JOhn and Anita Renfoe
for men only and for women only the feldhans
love and respect by eggrichs
starting your marriage right by Dennis rainey
5 love languages by chapman
5 languages of appology by chapman
now you are speaking my language by chapman
when sorry isnt enough by champan
and probably more. If you cant tell, i like books.