Trying NOT to orgasm
Since their wedding night, the majority of husbands have had sex with their wives while trying NOT to orgasm until later on.
Wives, have you ever tried NOT to orgasm? If so, why?
My DW gets overly sensitive and isn’t usually multi-orgasmic, so I hold off until I see she is getting close and using my words and usually a slightly aggressive technique while PIV I push her over the edge. If I am just not close enough to do that she will “hold off” by usually stopping all clitoral stimulation until I tell her I am about to orgasm and then she flips the switch and its right there waiting. We’ve been together for almost 20 years and for as long as I can remember she has been able to get close and hold it until I get close and then she can summon it pretty quickly at that point. I would say we orgasm together 75% of the time during PIV.
My wife used to avoid orgasms if she was giving me a quickie (which we stopped doing years ago). She wouldn’t let me play or get close to her clitoris, if I tried, she would take my hand away.
Also, if I give her a head to toe massage, we sometimes have sex, but she doesn’t want to orgasm, says she doesn’t want to get all worked up after being so relaxed.
Only very rarely do I try to hold off in the uncommon instance that it seems to build too quickly and I want to enjoy things more (and sometimes if it builds too quickly the sensation is not as strong). I can have multiple orgasms but it takes a lot time, concentration, and effort on my part and usually my first orgasm is the best anyway so we don’t try for multiples often.
So most of the time I’m trying get to orgasm, not to hold off.
I wonder if there is a connection between how easy it is to get to the first one “on command” with being too sensitive/not pleasurable to continue and then those who are less predictably or quickly brought to O the first time being able to keep going? Then too, I wonder what part the method for getting there (PIV, manual stimulation, toys) plays?
I find it difficult enough to get there that my O’s haven’t been–well really, still aren’t–always guaranteed. They seldom don’t happen now, but I have gotten almost there and then lost it too often to take it for granted that I will get there again if I hold off. But once I do get there, it’s not unusual for me to just keep going and going until I lose count.
So: easy start=one and done; slow show=more and more??? I have to admit, I would find it really unfair if there are easy starts who can keep going and going!! 😜
yes, my wife tries not to orgasm until we’re ready for it. Like @SeekingChange mentioned, she’s a “one and done” type of gal. Just like a guy, she has a refractory period after her big O and any further stimulation is almost painful for her clit, and she doesn’t feel the same pleasure building in her vagina, either. She can have lots of little O’s before the main event, but once the big O happens, that’s it. We had a lot of disappointments over the years when she’d orgasm too early, until we learned how to avoid it.