Tuesday, January 14, 2020: Today’s Question(s) of the Day
I guess years ago – its difficult to remember exactly how I felt – I didn’t find our fluids as hot, sexy or arousing as they have become. We knew so little about sex and what was actually sexy! But, over time we came to view them differently because they were produced as a result of us getting horny with each other and making love!!
I would definitely add sleeping in the buff. I once thought as a teen that it was simply irritating. It’s really more comfortable and I like it except for these cold months. I once thought it as simply irritating.
I hate condemns and do not use them now, no need. But I can look back at the practice as a sweet one, showing the power, the blessing, the joy and beautiful picture of our sex together.
Mine seems weird to me even now since I suspect the act itself is incredibly common, perhaps close to universal for couples, but it’s my wife wrapping her legs around me in the missionary position. For years I just never thought about it. Then it happened one day and the message it sent was “you’re close now but I want you even closer and as deep inside me as possible”. Now even the thought of it is incredibly hot to me.
Sleeping nude. I had tried it once around the age of 10 just to see what it felt like. It was a hot summer night, and I wanted to see if it would keep me cooler. My mom caught me and made a comment about how she thought it was odd. That memory stayed with me.
I didn’t try it again until I found the TMB site. To be succinct, my husband definitely didn’t find it odd. ☺️ It’s now a regular habit.
On a side note, I have found that it doesn’t keep me cooler. I often wake up sweaty if it’s a warm night. It must have something to do with the cloth in our sheets. On hotter nights, I still wear some kind of night wear to help with that. The fabric is different and acts as a moisture wick.
Early in our marriage I was super sensitive about the shape of my tummy and hated for him to touch the part below the waistline that was not on the directly vertical plane of naval to pubis; the flanks, I guess. I now enjoy his hands everywhere on my body (as long as it is a firm enough touch to not tickle.)
Until very recently, we had not been able to truly enjoy showering together. One little “rule” in our routine was making it very difficult and I had not seen how we could do it differently until I had spent some time feeling jealous of the couples here who regularly shower together. Suddenly a simple change became obvious and we have been showering together regularly ever since. I love it!!
Like DoveGrey, sleeping in the nude was found to be uncomfortable for the jewels when I getting sweaty…so I never did. After wife and I got married, I tried it out again and got used to it and it has stuck. Of course, I absolutely love when DW is in the nude, which is usually once she gets warm in bed and when she has hot flashes due early menopause (she’s 41) so she usually ends up that way overnight.
On a diff note, to solve the previously mentioned problem of sweaty jewels on some nights, I purchased a testie towel (just released this past Fall by the makers of ta-ta towels) and it’ll keep me comfy for the night when I wear it. Think of it as a cinch sack of material for the family jewels that’ll keep things dry and not sticking, and therefore, comfortable for the rest of the night. My wife laughs when that’s all I’m wearing but “laughter is the best medicine” AND laughter is a great builder of emotional intimacy so I’m ok with that!