Tuesday, January 7, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day
A handful of times, through the years, DH has told me that I look like Eve, from the Garden of Eden. Lol, like pictures of her, I mean. But it’s only at certain times, when my hair has been arranged jist right. I can’t make myself have that look.
The best: probably, “If you could see yourself through my eyes”
The worst: what he didn’t say (silence) when asked if he was still attracted to me. (BTW, this was over 20 yrs ago)
I can say, I have had no positive comment penetrate as deep as that silence that was perceived negatively.
Just the other day she commented on how much she loved the fullness of my head of hair. I don’t recall anyone ever saying that. Its thick and it grows well, and apart from a few fellows who have no hair commenting on my full crop, that was the first time I think that I have ever heard that:).
We were going to a marriage retreat and knew there would be a game similar to “The Newlywed Game” where we may be asked questions and have to match answers. So, we cheated! =) We started asking each other random questions and tried to prepare to win. One of the questions was what was the favorite body part. She said my arms. I work out fairly regularly and since knowing that have put a lot of focus on building strength in my upper body, particularly arms and shoulders.
By the way, we lost the game. The questions were nowhere near what we thought they would be!
i don’t remember the worst. My husband almost daily tells me how beautiful i am, that he’s in awe of me and doesn’t tell me all the time, he says he wishes i believed how gorgeous he thinks i am. Since my love language is words of affirmation, i am amazed by this! i also know it will not inflate my head because i know better (typical woman).
Best is probably comments about my hair, as a child/teen I hated it and was often teased by other children but he loved/s it from the moment we met and was not shy about telling me which over years and years I have come to believe and it has helped me come to appreciate it. He’s also made comments during sex about appreciating the view and I can tell by his tone how sincere they are.
Worst I honestly can’t think of a negative comment he’s made about my appearance off the top of my head (save giving an honest opinion on if an outfit is flattering when I’ve asked him for his honest opinion). There might be something but since I can’t think of it I’m not going to spend any time trying, better to dwell on the good.