Turn a romantic dinner into steamy sex

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    Not sure what category this will fit in. I decided to put in in masturbation because that is how it will start out. You and your spouse have a romantic dinner at home and the wife is wearing a short skirt with no panties but the man has no idea.  Everything seems to be normal as you eat then after clean you she says you want some dessert? The guy goes back to sits down and then she does and the man says so whats for dessert. The wife then pulls up her skirt and starts masturbating and says you want some then come and get it? The guy gets on his knees while she is sitting in the chair spread eagle then gives her oral and while he is doing that she rips off all her clothes. The next they do is doggy style as she is bends over and holds onto the table. You can fill in the blank for other things to do as well.

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      There’s nothing wrong with sharing creative ideas, they are similar to @Wheat’s Thursday challenge, IMO … and I feel some of the past posts, though maybe a little less tactful than some people would write, could be good ideas for people. And that is partly what TMB is for.

      This particular post, crossed into a different category. Rather than it being an idea from one perspective (the husbands or wives), it is more explicit story like, which seems to fall into the “for the sake of arousal”.

      Personally, even if I have a questionable doubt, I try to be gracious until I have a stronger feeling or evidence otherwise. Though I am not always perfect.

      @Frost, it seems you have the opportunity to learn here. You may have creative ideas that non-creative people could really benefit from, but there’s two options when you post/share… an appropriate and more honoring way to the brothers and sisters here, and a more sexually, lustful-charged inappropriate way to share things. Choose the way that’s more honorable to others, that will gain respect and get less kick-back.

       

      edited for clarification

      Under the stars Answered on July 30, 2020.

      I am rather visual so I wrote in detail or maybe in this case to most too much detail. People may not like the way it was written but there is bound to be some that would like to spice up there marriage and want a scenario like this to take place. I wrote it in detail on purpose so couples would read it and play out what was written to help there marriage bed. I guess somehow I have to dull it down in the future.

      on July 30, 2020.

      This kind of story-like detail does no good if only one spouse is reading it and looking for ideas. We have zero control of how another person will respond. Most people here don’t need or want a playwright, they just need the initial ideas. And if they want more details, they can form things into a less explicit question.

      on July 30, 2020.

      I guess I dont know what explicit is then because I could of been a lot more detailed. I thought what I wrote was not that bad.

      on July 30, 2020.

      You know what, I can see where you could have used more detail and used more slang, that often erotica uses, so I can see your effort.  Here’s an example of less explicit (it’s really taking out all the extra details):

      Ways to turn a romantic dinner into steamy sex T

      he wife wears a short skirt with not panties, unknown to the husband.

      After dinner and cleaning up, she asks if he wants some dessert.  She directs him to sit down, she sits beside him and then she lifts her skirt and puts on a show (MB), and then invites him to come and eat. T

      he husband could then get on his knees, and as he is enjoying, she removes the rest of her clothes. 

      After that the couple can move further activity to their desired location, with their desired position… maybe over the table, rear entry.  

       

      I know that may sound more clinical, it’s more like a “how-to” manual than a steamy story.   But it can help foster creativity and intimacy in each personal marriage, rather than just imagining a couple acting things out.  I’m not sure if this makes sense, but I hope it shows a difference in how one can communicate the same basic thing, but in a more honorable way to others.  

      on July 30, 2020.

      Yea I get what your saying. I just wonder if I try doing this it still ends up sounding like an erotic book reading.

      on July 30, 2020.

      I think that is the point, nothing on this board should read like an erotic book.  Things should be discussed in a more detached, clinical way.  A suggestion could be to have a romantic dinner that includes some oral sex and perhaps self pleasure flirting….and then let it go where it goes.  Again, broad brushstrokes, not going into a play by play.

      on July 30, 2020.
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        @Frost:

        Both @SC and @Duchess gave great suggestions on how you can improve your posting style and content within the culture of TMB. I wanted to give a little background on why the negative response from some here was so abrupt and perhaps surprising:

        In the past, particularly last fall, TMB came under siege from trolls/wolves whose apparent sole purpose was to write titillating posts (often very short without substance) and then stir dissension when someone objected. They PM’d users here looking for intimate, personal details, sometimes even photographs…though they might create a rapport with the person first to make the request seem less sinister. They exploited the system by posting their rudest material in a way that kept people from downvoting it. And they seemingly worked together (or were the same person with multiple accounts) to game the system and move up the ranking/badges to give a false sense of credibility. I think this behavior caught many here off guard and took a while to sink in. Now, the denizens here are much more guarded, and to a degree more discerning, which overall is positive. However, it means they can also call foul (or at least question things) at misguided or new people who are not intentional trolls. Recent examples where this may have happened include you, another poster who seems to hate having sex with her husband, and another one who cheated on her husband and came here looking for help.

        The thing is, the trolls/wolves are very real. The primary troll from last fall had caused significant problems at another site shortly before coming here to cause problems. Interestingly, that troll is/was somewhat of a celebrity at yet another site (which seems to be where they heard about TMB and the other site they attacked), and the primary focus of the site where they’re the celebrity?…you guessed it, erotic literature.

        I don’t believe the current rules at TMB state that titillation is not allowed, though the old site said that I think. However, that rule has carried over with the users who migrated to this system, and given what I’ve seen of other “Christian” sites, I think it’s a great rule to have. Avoiding titillation allows people with pornography struggles (e.g. me), struggle with infidelity, etc to come here and see it as a safe haven. There are plenty of places out there, some claiming to be Christian, to find erotic literature and titillation. That is not the goal or purpose of TMB.

        Honestly, I do not think you are a troll. And despite my proclivity to place downvotes, I have not downvoted you. I hope you stick around and can contribute within the attitude/culture provided here; however, I understand if you do not feel welcomed or think that your contributions are overlooked.

        -Scott

        Under the stars Answered on July 31, 2020.

        I really didnt come here to cause trouble. I have never even heard of the word titillation before. I have rather high hormones so I guess that has helped contributed to me putting things up that are a bit more detailed then they should be. I tend to be rather blunt which catches people off guard. I like the idea of passionate sex where a couple will make love whenever the moment sparks them if they are alone of course. A spouse that will do things to spice up the marriage bed makes it fun.

        on July 31, 2020.

        Helpful history, @Scott+Zelda

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          troll alert

          On the floor Answered on July 30, 2020.

          Not necessarily. This is the same type of post that the OP has posted in the past, although maybe a little more explicit.

          -Scott

          on July 30, 2020.
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            I have been avoiding these posts, as they seem very sketchy to me as well.  They seem to be more for titillation than anything.

            On the floor Answered on July 30, 2020.
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              As far as I’m concerned FROST is a troll who only participates in or writes titillating questions so I refuse to participate in his questions.  He can go get off reading other stuff somewhere else.

              If one wants to participate in the community, then participate and add value to the whole community. All Frost’s questions (as well as most answers) have been about masturbation or Oral Sex and every one has been in a short crass way, not giving or asking for advice, just titillation.  So yes, I say troll and I’m not participating in his posts except for saying something like this now.

              Under the stars Answered on July 30, 2020.
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                @Frost–IF you are not a troll, and truly want to offer helpful suggestions for adding spice to a Christian married couple’s marriage bed, here is how you should have written your post:

                Header: Sharing a suggested outline for wives who want to jump-start a sexy evening

                Category: (I’d have to look, but probably the married sex, not otherwise listed; definitely not masturbation)

                “Question” (Which does not have to be a question, but that is what the format calls it.):

                Plan a romantic dinner at home. Wear a short skirt with no panties but don’t tell your husband.  Keep it casual and normal throughout the meal and cleanup, then make sure he sits back down to the table for dessert. You sit down as well, and if you like, give him a moment to wonder where the dessert is or to ask you, “So what’s for dessert?” Your response can be to pull up your skirt and let him see your fingers make contact with your vulva. Be sensual and enticing, and ask him if he’d like to come and get it. If he is like most men, he will likely come to his knees and enjoy his dessert quite thoroughly, and will handle the clean-up too! (There are other things you can do to supplement this plan: think food-related double entendres for your conversation, maybe whipped cream as an addition to dessert, let your imagination go wild.)

                Maybe you will find you enjoy going commando with short (or long) skirts and when your husband realizes your new style, he will bend you over the table and take you from behind. (You could call it a hot dog lunch. 🙂 )

                Frost, can you see the difference in how this comes across as more helpful suggestion and less suggestive? It can even still be playful and funny, but the intent is clearly to encourage the creativity and ingenuity of a loving wife as opposed to titillating someone who may still be struggling with the remnants of a porn addiction or even just the normal temptation to sin.

                I don’t know if you are purposely seeking to be explicit or are just a little misguided. I pray that you will take the criticism that has been offered on this question as constructive, will examine your heart for your true motives, and will carefully consider your future posts in light of whether your contribution is meant to be healthy and helpful…or hot and harmful. I pray that you will not be crushed under this correction but find hope and a closer relationship with Christ and with your wife. I pray that evil will be bound and have no success in your life, whether that means through you or against you. I sincerely pray God’s blessing in your life and your marriage.

                Under the stars Answered on July 30, 2020.

                Thanks

                on July 30, 2020.
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                  @Frost, what exactly is the point of posts like this?

                  How exactly does it help other people to be better husbands and wives and enjoy sex with their spouse more? How does it help you to be more godly?

                  On the floor Answered on July 30, 2020.

                  Are people opposed to having passionate sex or just something to give each an orgasm and move on?

                  on July 30, 2020.

                  No, people on here aren’t opposed to passionate sex, and neither am I. But sometimes there’s a right way and a wrong way to go about things. Some of these posts seem to be more about titillation or pushing boundaries than actually encouraging people to enjoy sex.

                  on July 31, 2020.

                  Exactly what David said!

                  on August 1, 2020.
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                    Just take the post off if its considered offensive. Ugh. Hard to believe nobody in this forum would like to do this.

                    Double bed Answered on July 30, 2020.

                    It has nothing to do with that. It has everything to do with whether or not you drop bombs like this every time  instead of contributing in a healthy way with all the other topics and conversations around this board. Duchess posted it well. My point is that is seems titillating vs encouraging a discussion among Christians about their MB.

                    on July 30, 2020.
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