Turn a romantic dinner into steamy sex
Not sure what category this will fit in. I decided to put in in masturbation because that is how it will start out. You and your spouse have a romantic dinner at home and the wife is wearing a short skirt with no panties but the man has no idea. Everything seems to be normal as you eat then after clean you she says you want some dessert? The guy goes back to sits down and then she does and the man says so whats for dessert. The wife then pulls up her skirt and starts masturbating and says you want some then come and get it? The guy gets on his knees while she is sitting in the chair spread eagle then gives her oral and while he is doing that she rips off all her clothes. The next they do is doggy style as she is bends over and holds onto the table. You can fill in the blank for other things to do as well.
There’s nothing wrong with sharing creative ideas, they are similar to @Wheat’s Thursday challenge, IMO … and I feel some of the past posts, though maybe a little less tactful than some people would write, could be good ideas for people. And that is partly what TMB is for.
This particular post, crossed into a different category. Rather than it being an idea from one perspective (the husbands or wives), it is more explicit story like, which seems to fall into the “for the sake of arousal”.
Personally, even if I have a questionable doubt, I try to be gracious until I have a stronger feeling or evidence otherwise. Though I am not always perfect.
@Frost, it seems you have the opportunity to learn here. You may have creative ideas that non-creative people could really benefit from, but there’s two options when you post/share… an appropriate and more honoring way to the brothers and sisters here, and a more sexually, lustful-charged inappropriate way to share things. Choose the way that’s more honorable to others, that will gain respect and get less kick-back.
edited for clarification
Both @SC and @Duchess gave great suggestions on how you can improve your posting style and content within the culture of TMB. I wanted to give a little background on why the negative response from some here was so abrupt and perhaps surprising:
In the past, particularly last fall, TMB came under siege from trolls/wolves whose apparent sole purpose was to write titillating posts (often very short without substance) and then stir dissension when someone objected. They PM’d users here looking for intimate, personal details, sometimes even photographs…though they might create a rapport with the person first to make the request seem less sinister. They exploited the system by posting their rudest material in a way that kept people from downvoting it. And they seemingly worked together (or were the same person with multiple accounts) to game the system and move up the ranking/badges to give a false sense of credibility. I think this behavior caught many here off guard and took a while to sink in. Now, the denizens here are much more guarded, and to a degree more discerning, which overall is positive. However, it means they can also call foul (or at least question things) at misguided or new people who are not intentional trolls. Recent examples where this may have happened include you, another poster who seems to hate having sex with her husband, and another one who cheated on her husband and came here looking for help.
The thing is, the trolls/wolves are very real. The primary troll from last fall had caused significant problems at another site shortly before coming here to cause problems. Interestingly, that troll is/was somewhat of a celebrity at yet another site (which seems to be where they heard about TMB and the other site they attacked), and the primary focus of the site where they’re the celebrity?…you guessed it, erotic literature.
I don’t believe the current rules at TMB state that titillation is not allowed, though the old site said that I think. However, that rule has carried over with the users who migrated to this system, and given what I’ve seen of other “Christian” sites, I think it’s a great rule to have. Avoiding titillation allows people with pornography struggles (e.g. me), struggle with infidelity, etc to come here and see it as a safe haven. There are plenty of places out there, some claiming to be Christian, to find erotic literature and titillation. That is not the goal or purpose of TMB.
Honestly, I do not think you are a troll. And despite my proclivity to place downvotes, I have not downvoted you. I hope you stick around and can contribute within the attitude/culture provided here; however, I understand if you do not feel welcomed or think that your contributions are overlooked.
As far as I’m concerned FROST is a troll who only participates in or writes titillating questions so I refuse to participate in his questions. He can go get off reading other stuff somewhere else.
If one wants to participate in the community, then participate and add value to the whole community. All Frost’s questions (as well as most answers) have been about masturbation or Oral Sex and every one has been in a short crass way, not giving or asking for advice, just titillation. So yes, I say troll and I’m not participating in his posts except for saying something like this now.
@Frost–IF you are not a troll, and truly want to offer helpful suggestions for adding spice to a Christian married couple’s marriage bed, here is how you should have written your post:
Header: Sharing a suggested outline for wives who want to jump-start a sexy evening
Category: (I’d have to look, but probably the married sex, not otherwise listed; definitely not masturbation)
“Question” (Which does not have to be a question, but that is what the format calls it.):
Plan a romantic dinner at home. Wear a short skirt with no panties but don’t tell your husband. Keep it casual and normal throughout the meal and cleanup, then make sure he sits back down to the table for dessert. You sit down as well, and if you like, give him a moment to wonder where the dessert is or to ask you, “So what’s for dessert?” Your response can be to pull up your skirt and let him see your fingers make contact with your vulva. Be sensual and enticing, and ask him if he’d like to come and get it. If he is like most men, he will likely come to his knees and enjoy his dessert quite thoroughly, and will handle the clean-up too! (There are other things you can do to supplement this plan: think food-related double entendres for your conversation, maybe whipped cream as an addition to dessert, let your imagination go wild.)
Maybe you will find you enjoy going commando with short (or long) skirts and when your husband realizes your new style, he will bend you over the table and take you from behind. (You could call it a hot dog lunch. 🙂 )
Frost, can you see the difference in how this comes across as more helpful suggestion and less suggestive? It can even still be playful and funny, but the intent is clearly to encourage the creativity and ingenuity of a loving wife as opposed to titillating someone who may still be struggling with the remnants of a porn addiction or even just the normal temptation to sin.
I don’t know if you are purposely seeking to be explicit or are just a little misguided. I pray that you will take the criticism that has been offered on this question as constructive, will examine your heart for your true motives, and will carefully consider your future posts in light of whether your contribution is meant to be healthy and helpful…or hot and harmful. I pray that you will not be crushed under this correction but find hope and a closer relationship with Christ and with your wife. I pray that evil will be bound and have no success in your life, whether that means through you or against you. I sincerely pray God’s blessing in your life and your marriage.
I personally didn’t find it too explicit, but the way it was written made it a bit suspicious. Besides what was already mentioned (the purpose seems to be to arouse instead of to share an idea), there were grammatical/semantical errors, run-on sentences, misspellings, etc. These are sometimes traits of text written by trolls.