Underwear or Not

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    Hi recently my Husband as been trying to persuade me to sometimes not wear Either panties or Bra. I have not worn a bra a couple times. I don’t have big boobs but very prominent nipples so when I have done this it can be very noticeable. 
    But recently he wants me to leave underwear off with pants this ok but dress or short skirt I am reluctant. 
    What are other ladies thoughts on this even guys. 

    I wouldn’t want my wife going out in a dress without underwear.  I don’t want her to dress in a way that provokes lust from other men.  If it’s just us, showing those parts is fine.

    Just a health tip– I heard that wearing a bra a lot leads to the connective tissues that support a woman’s breasts atropheing and causes breasts to sag more quickly.  That’s the theory at least.  I remember seeing some old jungle women with saggy breasts that looked like a pool ball in a wrinkly balloon in a National Geographic when I was young or on some documentary.  My guess is they don’t wear bras.  So not wearing a bra doesn’t guarantee there will never be sagging.  It’s good not to sleep in one if one is young and not sagging.

    on September 29, 2020.
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      I feel reasonably comfortable (and therefore able to enjoy and be playful) going without underwear when wearing a skirt, and all of my skirts are mid-calf length. It is only in recent years that I have been able to not see underwear as the paper towel people put under the tea thermos at a picnic–necessary to catch drips! When I was young I was so easily physically aroused that I almost always had some amount of lubrication leaking out at some point during the day–constantly, if I were on a date. Then there were the years of completely unpredictable periods and extended “spotting”. I actually feel that getting a little older has freed me somewhat in this regard.

      As a person who never wears short skirts and can therefore only be an observer, I appreciate your reluctance to go without in that situation. It is too easy to get unintentional glimpses of that area in a short skirt, no matter how conscious you are of keeping your knees together; and frankly I don’t want to see someone’s hoo-hah if they trip and fail to maintain the royal slant for a moment.

      I used to always skip bras if I were at home, and always wear them when I went out, but now that I’m home almost all the time, I have taken to wearing a cotton “shelf” bra, (primarily so I have a place to stick my phone and be able to hear my audio book, lol,) but also so that I don’t have to worry when UPS comes or when talking over the fence with the neighbors. I’ve discovered it’s also more comfortable than letting them hang and frequently pinching or scraping a nipple in the course of my housework. If you are “small enough” to not need the support, but don’t want the nipples to show, there are re-stickable cup-only bras that keep popping up in my ads that would take care of that. (Supposedly they will support any size breast, too, but I’m not wasting my money to find out they lied!)

       

      Under the stars Answered on September 27, 2020.

      On those restickable cup bras, I wore them for my son’s wedding. It worked for me, but the bridal shop only carried them up through size D (or DD).

      on September 27, 2020.

      DW has a restickable set she uses for strapless & open back sundresses.

      on September 28, 2020.
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        If the skirt/dress is long enough, I have enjoyed evenings/days out, without. It can be a nice surprise to whisper while you are out, that there’s nothing on under your clothes. Or maybe even better yet, while you are out, slip into the bathroom, remove them, and “gift” him with your panties, by slipping them into his hand or pocket.

        Under the stars Answered on September 27, 2020.

        Great idea! That would be such a turn on!

        but dangerous for the man, you don’t want him getting an erection in the wrong places, it would be a bit embarrassing.

        on September 27, 2020.

        Just because something is drop-dead sexy does not mean that men get and stay continually hard as a result. Her sexuality adds to the husbands thoughts of HER sexuality and her body. He won’t forget her actions. My wife will sometimes wear no panties under sweat pants in the house and lets me know…kids are unaware.

        The only question to ask is, does she get anything from this action? Often women do not care to sexually impress their husband because they get nothing out of it.

        My conclusion; if she is young and adventurous and wants to sexually impress you, she will do it, IF you are worth it. If she is older like my very slender 50+ year old wife, her attitude may be to sexually limit things.  Add to that the risk of public attention to obvious signs of thin shirts or blouses or a skirt with g-string or no panties and a sudden wind blows the skirt up; she may not chance it. Ya gotta be strategic. Poor rough material in a braless shirt can feel very irritating as well.

        on September 27, 2020.

        re: “The only question to ask is, does she get anything from this action?”

        Maybe she gets a quickie, PIV from behind. or a 30 seconds OS on her.

        🙂

         

        on September 29, 2020.
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          So, with Covid and being completely at home now, I’m mostly in yoga pants and I don’t wear underwear. I do wear a bra.  My boobs are big enough that it hurts to go without a bra, but I only wear underwear now if I’m going to wear jeans, or other pants that would rub on my vulva and make it irritated.  DH loves it and now underwear feel odd and restricting. I’ve had no problems from this.

          On the floor Answered on September 27, 2020.
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            DW hates wearing a bra and tries to avoid wearing one unless she absolutely has to. She wears one for work begrudgingly but as soon as she gets home she takes it off.

            She always wore panties, expect when we were dating we had this naughty game between the two of us. I used to visit her at her parents’ house and sometimes she wore a skirt with no panties underneath and then at some opportune moment she would lift her skirt for a second and flash her bush at me behind her parents’ back…

            Fell out of ... Answered on October 1, 2020.
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              As a guy, I would love to be ‘gifted’ my DW’s panties while out for a date!

              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 27, 2020.
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                Do it at home first. That may end up being the only place it happens, but it would still be very exciting for me if it were to happen at home, especially if it were at times when it was totally unexpected.

                Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on September 27, 2020.

                Good advice!

                on September 27, 2020.
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                  If he likes it, go for it. Maybe you’d feel more comfortable with a medium- length hemline instead of short length?
                  I’ll often wear skirts commando at home to avoid always having fabric up against my genitalia 24/7. I think it’s good for your flora.
                  My DH as the LD spouse and gatekeeper rolls his eyes if I flash him or show him commando status. Not his thing unfortunately.

                  Hammock Answered on September 27, 2020.

                  but if you like it, and its secure, do it.

                  on September 27, 2020.

                  @CJ he doesn’t like it, so no.

                  on September 27, 2020.
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                    A male perspective here…When we first met, my wife rarely wore a bra, even to work. I will admit, it was a big hit with me back then. I can’t say for certain when the wardrobe change occurred, but she Never goes out in public braless now. I wouldn’t want her to dress that way in public now.  At home, anything goes!

                    California King Answered on September 27, 2020.
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                      Here’s an idea! Make a date for a romantic Scottish dinner – at home or if your DH is confident 😁 at a restaurant. The two of you can dress-up in traditional Scottish  outfits. He’ll be wearing his kilt and you a lassie dress. You both will be commando and have a sexy dinner and evening!

                      Under the stars Answered on October 4, 2020.
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                        As a guy, absolutely what SC said. I have even suggested exactly what SC said to DW.

                        Sadly, she hasn’t done so yet. In her defense, she did that with her ex and he did NOTHING so it’s a ghost of her past to overcome. If she did that to me, I wouldn’t be able to keep my hands off her under the table if in a table-clothed restaurant or in the car on the way home. That would be SOOOOO HOT!!!!!

                        Under the stars Answered on September 27, 2020.

                        Just make sure the car insurance is up to date…

                        on September 27, 2020.

                        That scene with Steve Martin in Parenthood always comes to mind. 😀   

                        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vO2jvLIyIV4

                        on September 27, 2020.

                        My belief is that the more often she is nude or partially nude, the more she can anticipate sex. So it should benefit her as much as you.

                        Unless she feels very modest too often then any nudity outside of the shower is uncomfortable for her.

                        on September 27, 2020.
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