Upping the verbal/’dirty talk’ game
Voicing things during sex is not a strong suit for me, I would like to up my game.
What are the top lines you like to say or hear? It could be during sex, after sex, or the flirtation and teasing to lead up to it.
I’ll try to keep this clean enough to avoid titillation while still being specific enough to be helpful. I express my great admiration for the length, girth, stiffness, and softness (skin) of his, ahem, equipment (Tim is right, I never call it a penis; words I use start with c and d) and tell him how lucky I am that he not only has an exceptional one, but knows how to use it well. Sometimes I focus on telling him exactly how wonderful he has made me feel or, as NWNL said, how I can’t wait to get him inside me. I definitely mention how that feels, focusing on concepts like stretching, stuffing, heat, etc. It’s not verbal, but I make sure to let him see me openly ogling him naked, with an expression full of eager anticipation (I widen my eyes, bite and lick my lips, and maybe not exactly pant, but breathe a little excited.) I talk about how I belong to him, he possesses me, he’s staking his claim, marking his territory, (those things turn ME on; I hope they turn him on). I also tell him how he’s the only man I could possibly love and the only one who could ever please me.
Oh, and just FYI, I never tell him anything but the honest truth. If I can’t say something good truthfully, I find something else to say. False praise would be harmful in the long run. Only sincere words, even in playful dirty talk, build him up.
I crave very pointed and direct praise of and desire for my man parts and how excited my wife is to be experiencing it, repeatedly. 🙂 Most men want their woman to think their penis is the most fantastic gift freely available to them. Tip, if you want it to be erotic don’t call it a penis.
Also specific praise for skills like oral sex, this is best delivered during the act.
I think pre-encounter erotic talk should be about how turned on you are and how much you want his man parts, or maybe specific things you are going to do to him or that you want done to you.
Again, men want specific praise and very specific directions on what you want. That is hot. Being coy, lady like, and using formal or proper language is not going to get it done.
Another idea is to look up names and activities in an urban/slang dictionary. We’ve also used some of those terms which can be quite amusing when used in the right moment. Why should the kids have all the fun slang?
bumpin uglies….tongue twister…patting the beaver…. bopping the bologna…
What husband wouldn’t want to play “hide the sausage”? 😀
Again, a lot of this would depend upon your relationship and the mood. Personally, I enjoy when my wife goes off the rails on occasion but crass isn’t something I want a steady diet of…but when she toys with me, mmmm, mmmm, good ‘cause I know what’s coming, we are gonna get down and do “the deed” with a whole lot of raw passion.
I like to hear DW use nonclinical words for her body parts. Like t*ts or pu**y.
It gets me going when she either invites me with questions like, Do you want to see more? Do you want to have me? How about you suck me hard?
Or, when she gives me directives: Do it now! Go deep, etc.
Uhmmm….I want to hear her talk about what she wants to do to me….to feel me do…to feel of mine. Think of what you might imagine in a “trashy” romance novel.
-oh, I can’t wait to take your throbbing ______ in my mouth… (or “feel it plunge into me”)
– I love it when you take me hard and fast from behind.
– I wanna feel you head between my legs
– I want you to treat me like your horse, ride me hard and put me away wet.
-_______ me now!!!
-I want you so bad… (or inside me) I can’t take it any more
I enjoy when my wife vocalizes her pleasure and encourages me to keep going. I also like it when she texts what she wants to do to me…what she wants to experience with me/by me.
And I like to tell her, “save a horse, ride a cowboy”. (So not me BUT she loves horses and grew up on a farm.)
I know H and i will not use the F word and find it very distasteful but i find it hard to be vocal until orgasm. Only time i used dirty talk was twice and i was very turned on, one time was when i initiated fellatio to completion and told him i would like him to “c…” in my mouth (i’m sure he loved that as that was the very first time i ever used the word come as i hated that word up til then) and the other time was right before orgasm i told him i was about to “c…..” and i know he loved that.
Otherwise i’m not really into it and feel it would be forced unless i was feeling very hot. Husbands old school so calls the vulva “beaver” which i detest, LOL and won’t call it that but i’d much rather him call it that then vagina any day. He will say something turns him on but other than that no real dirty talk. Not against it but for me it would be kind of forced…
Sounds like this is something we need to put more effort into. I have thought about it, but than forgot about it again. We don’t verbalize much during sex. But these are excellent ideas. I also like the emojis and text used. I never use emojis when texting, but I think I shall start. Only with DH though, LOL.
This would seem a bit awkward to start talking like this during sex. Anyone have ideas on starting so that DH won’t think I’m completely messed up in my head, or that I won’t laugh too hard?
“What are the top lines you like to say or hear? It could be during sex, after sex, or the flirtation and teasing to lead up to it”
For me “dirty talk” has a specific purpose. It is designed to express passion, desire, and erotic love. This is in contrast to what I would call “soft talk” (e.g. you are so beautiful) which is designed to express the “softer emotions” of intimate love and companionship.
In other words you use soft talk when cuddling or during a slow intimate act of lovemaking to express deep feelings of connection.
You use erotic talk to express your passion for your spouse. You didn’t marry them merely for companionship, you married them because you desired them and longed for their soul, mind, and body.
It doesn’t have to be use “bad words” or specifically mention sexual body parts (although such verbiage has its place) as long as its focused on the passion you have for your spouse. It lets your spouse know they are irresistible.
It also works well in combination with nonverbal action. For example if I talk about a body part I am often simultaneously stimulating it. If I tell her how wonderful it is to be inside her I increase my thrusting rate.
Say: I love your perfect *insert body part*, I want to take you to bed and * you all night long, bend over, I want to rip your clothes off, I love being inside you, etc.
Hear: * me harder, take me, praise of and desire to experience a certain body part, hearty request for stimulation of certain body part, I love when you’re inside me, you are my man, etc.