We got our first vibrator… How to use it on my DW?

    The DW and I recently got our first vibrator and, I’ll be honest, it’s been a little intimidating on how to use it.  I mean, I understand how it works, but the technique of using it hasn’t worked as well for us.  She says it feels good, but knowing how she responds, it seems like MS gets her going far better/quicker, which is surprising.  DW is also a little shy about MB in front of me, so she hasn’t used it on herself.  She also responds much better to G-Spot stimulation than clitoral.

    So, in a Christian context (no porn or anything like that) is there any resource or recommendations on how to use a vibrator on your spouse?

    Queen bed Asked on April 14, 2019 in Activities & Items .
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      As there is a wide variety of vibes out there, it is difficult to answer specifically – we don’t know which one you have.  And it seems to me that working with your DW is the better than putting too much emphasis on what works for others.

      If MS works better for her, then perhaps the vibe becomes optional or unnecessary.

      Also, if she is shy about somethings, it might be better to move ahead at a pace that is better for her. You want to be gracious and understanding in all things.

      Since you have already discovered that she responds to G-Spot stimulation better than clitoral, you may want to focus on what you know works best and seek to determine through experimentation and learning if there are other ways of providing clitoral stimulation that she would enjoy.

      Hope that helps.

      Under the stars Answered on April 14, 2019.
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        Why would it be suprising that she prefers the touch of your hand rather than a piece of plastic?  Personally, I can’t stand vibrators.  (Non-vibrating insertables are nice though).  To me, vibration isn’t a “natural” sensation that mimics something humans can do, and I don’t want to be dependent on vibrators for orgasms.   Your wife may feel the same way.   I agree with one_woman_man, this is something that the two of you need to figure out for yourselves.  Freestyle experimenting will be more fun than reading and following directions, right? 🙂

        Hammock Answered on April 14, 2019.
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          Thank you both for the response.  Probably a poor choice of words on my end, but by “surprising” I only meant because we spent a decent amount of money on it and she honestly likes the “free” option better 🙂

          Our only thought was trying to find a way to use it during PIV so that we can O together, but, so far, it really hasn’t helped as much.  Again – no frustrations on our end.  We’re thankful for the blessings that we have.

          Queen bed Answered on April 14, 2019.
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            So I’m not sure what type of vibrator – internal or external – you have but your comment implies that it’s an external (clitoral) type.  We often use the We-Vibe Touch for clitoral stimulation during PIV if the position allows for it.  I find that it greatly enhances the experience but it took some experimentation and practice to get to where we are today with it.  Don’t give up too soon and do encourage your wife to learn what works for your on her own.  That’s how I learned even if I didn’t go over the finish line with it.

            Fell out of ... Answered on April 15, 2019.
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              DW and I turned to vibrators in an effort to help her achieve an orgasm, which she could not have through manual stimulation or PIV sex. Although we started by having me use it on her, she did not O until she took control and guided it where it felt best. While we can’t have PIV while she is using the vibrator (a wand-style toy), I can still stroke her back, manually stimulate her, etc, which is exciting for both of us. To echo a previous post, you and your wife need to experiment to see what works best for you.

              On the floor Answered on April 19, 2019.
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