Wednesday, January 15, 2020 – Today’s Question(s) of the Day
So many answers—each the best in their own way! There was a Christmas Eve with wine, chocolate, and the soft glow of the tree (mid-20s); magical atmosphere made for the perfect mix of tenderness and passion. There was sex on the balcony in Hawaii, when she surprised me (I was out enjoying a little fresh air at night), and we did it in a chair with light rain sprinkling on us (mid-20s); the spontaneity of it made it extra passionate and the setting was unique. Then there was the evening that we received the settlement offer do my wife’s car accident, and we suddenly had assurance that we would be provided for in that circumstance, leading us to praise God for blessing us; it was the first time in the year since her accident that sex was anything more than “basic maintenance” for my benefit; she was fully into it, there were tears of joy for both of us, she had her first O since the accident, very emotional (early-30s). Finally, I’d say 2019 was our best “sexual year” thus far; my wife had a sexual renaissance starting in March and we had more than twice as much sex as in previous years and the quality for both of us and intimacy were off the charts. Praise God for such great blessings!
Best and most meaningful was sex on our honeymoon! It was the first for both of us and it was so new and exciting!
Then after the kids got a bit bigger and DW had her awakening in her mid forties, we had more “best” sex because she was able to O repeatedly, was open to trying new things like more positions, OS, oral to completion, etc.
Hard to answer – lots of phases and some memorable. If I think about phases, right around 7-9 years married we were really in sync both desires and drive wise. Lots of best sex during that phase. We hadn’t had kids to that point and started trying in the 9th year. One memorable one – we had decided to try getting pregnant starting that month. We were coming home on Sunday right after church. My wife was as regular as clockwork, so I think we both knew timing was about right. We walked in the door from service and honestly I remember two things about that afternoon. First the clothes were left on the stairs up to our room. Second I remember both of us spent and my DW saying “I think we just made a baby.”. She was right. The actual sex though, I don’t remember other than it was a really hungry and ravenous consumption of each other. Ironically, it was a difficult delivery of our daughter that changed a lot of things sensation wise for DW. Sex is pretty good now too (married 30 years) just different.
So many different encounters for differing reasons…first time…first times for various things…passionate sex where we were both so hot & bothered we were BOTH done, start to finish, in less than 15 minutes. We had a late start with a second marriage so we’re mid-life now and making up for lost time/years.
Mine was a season. It was after we did marriage work and had started wih clean slates. In essence, I was also having an awakening and finding freedom in enjoying and expressing my sexual self. It was before my husband was having his low T problems and other stresses in life. But we were together long enough to know each other well and what works, but had the excitement of wanting to explore things in a new way. It was about a 2 year span around 20 years into our marriage, and we were between the ages of 38-42.
Lots of great times in over 50 years, but the one time we both still talk about happened a couple of months after we were married, so that would have made us 20 & 21. We’d attended a party at the apartment my brother shared with his frat brothers and drank so much garbage can punch we knew it wasn’t safe to drive 25 miles home. We checked into the nearby Holiday Inn and ML on the bed, the chair, the floor, and everywhere else. There have been plenty of other great memories, but this is the one that always sticks with both of us.
The best sex we have ever had was during the months when DW was heavily pregnant with our son. We always had a very satisfactory sex live but the pregnancy did something special for us. To start with, for me, the look of my heavily pregnant wife was a real turn on. For DW, something happened around in the third trimester of her pregnancy and her hormones went wild. One extremely erotic effect of this was that she became very aroused and the nature of her orgasms changed. Rather than the normal short but intensive burst, she tended to have long, deep, extended orgasms, with me not so much thrusting inside her but slowly pushing in and pulling out. So we had these long rear-entry lovemaking sessions with her kneeling on the floor, leaning against the couch, bum slightly raised and me moving in and out of her.
This was also very visually erotic because another unusual thing that happened was that the amount and consistency of her vaginal fluids changed quite astonishingly into something like sun cream / yogurt. So every time I pulled out, my P was literally covered with a thick layer of white cream. I absolutely loved the feeling and the sight of it. We spent many happy evenings making love like this.
I’m not sure which particular time, but I’d say the best sex we’ve ever had probably has happened over the last year. Starting off our marriage with ED was awful, but the silver lining of that is that if you can find treatment for whatever causes it, it can mean that your best sex may happen after you’ve already been married over ten years and are in your forties.