Well i finally told my husband my sexual fantasy
And it was very freeing and he was very receptive to it, mainly because (and this was a shock to me but most men would probably nod in agreement) he said he loved seeing me “turned on”. And that was important to him to see me really sexually turned on and excited, not so much the fantasy or the sexual turn on which he finds a little weird but harmless. I don’t know if i want to divulge what it is for fear of judgement or my TMB family thinking i’m strange. I don’t think it is sinful but it very well could be and i have to guard myself although i completely trust my husband. (this isn’t talking about fantasies of ANYONE ELSE or something sinful like that).
Because of my sexual awakening our marriage bed is more exciting than it has ever been, it has always been very vanilla for whatever reason, probably because we didn’t know any better (toys, etc.) and so far my husband is liking all of it (i am trying to get him to wrap his mind around an anal plug specifically for prostate massage plus i want him to really enjoy his orgasm..what wife wouldn’t?). I told him tonight there are only 2 things that are a turn-off to me with a husband. One is selfishness in TMB which he NEVER has been and another is prudishness and he agreed. 🙂
Good for you! and him!
I know that sharing can be scary. My deepest and darkest fantasies were almost forced out of me. I see the good from it, and there was an intimacy created from it, but there was a reason I wasn’t freely sharing them.
Praying your marriage bed continues to grow and you two enjoy this sexual high you are on for as long as possible!
I’m very happy for your bravery. I’m always so scared about that kind of thing. But hearing stories like yours embolden me. This site is definitely a blessing!
As I am also in a bit of an awakening, I sometimes wonder what our husbands think about all this. Not about being on the board, but about their reactions to the new sexier wife. I worry that mine thinks it might not last. Or what he really thinks of me, as sometimes it isn’t easy for him to be open. So it’s encouraging to hear your husband’s reaction.
Thank you for sharing!
Good for you! That is awesome. I share fantasies with my wife, but IF she has any fantasies, she won’t share them. Then only fantasy she has every in 30 years even suggested is she would like to try sex with another woman, but she would never actually act on it.
Congrats and good for you! I’ve always been much more open about my sexual fantasies/unique tastes than my DW has been about hers, and I’ve regularly shared with her how much I would love to hear about any sexual fantasy or special desires she has. She has not actually shared any with me, so I’m left wondering if she has some she’s not willing to share or maybe she simply does not have anything. And if the latter, that’s okay, but if she had any, I would love to do whatever I could to make those things a reality as much as it’s possible. Blessings to you.
So glad to hear this!
We have found that talking about our fantasies with each other is a great way to infuse the relationship with new life. The nervousness about sharing something “weird” is very similar to the heightened nerves one experiences during the early days of discovering whether the other person is interested or not. Braving the risk can recall those heady, exciting, early days of a relationship, with the butterflies and the sexual tension and the swoony moments. We agree that although we each have some fantasies that don’t appeal to the other, and each have some that we would never act upon (because it would be sinful), as long as we are loving and tender toward one another, talking about them together is a very intimate thing and almost guaranteed to be a sexual turn-on.
I have to confess to one of my failings: you have said just enough about your fantasy to make me just itch to know what it is. Curiosity killed the cat, and it might yet be my fatal flaw!