What are you and your spouses Enneagram types and how have they affected your marriage and sex life?
My wife and I have read “The Road Back to You” and done a lot of research into the Enneagram. It’s helped us understand ourselves and one another and has had positive effects on our marriage relationship and even our sex life.
Just curious what other relationship type pairings there are out there and how this has affected your relationship and sex dynamics.
We’re a 5w4 and 2w1 combo, by the way.
I have just started learning about enneagrams and so I don’t know a whole lot about it, and I haven’t really had a chance to figure out how the specific dynamics have manifested them in our marriage and sex life.
I am a Type 6w5. He is a Type 3w2.
Security is highly important to a type 6, that has helped explain why I gravitate towards things that make me safe and comfortable. It explains why even when being adventurous, I need certain things to feel a sense of security. And when I don’t feel secure or “safe” in the relationship, it has a major effect on how open and vulnerable I will be. With the wing 5, compartmentalizing and pulling back and isolation is a way to handle things.
I never heard of this until I saw this post. My H and I took and online test and the results were that I was a Type 4w6 and he is a Type 1w3. It seems fairly accurate, DH is a perfectionist and I’m fairly artistic/idealistic, we’re both introspective with a tendency towards self blame. On the perfectionist side of things, H decided pretty early in our relationship that he would do the laundry, I just couldn’t fold things the way he felt was acceptable. (I gladly and gracefully walked away from this responsibility…lol). I also know that DH listens to the ideas I have and actually tries to make them happen, within reason. I do help H see things from a different perspective when he is struggling with a work issue. I’m still looking more into this particular personality test, these kinds of things always interest me 🙂