What cheers you up?
Make some iced coffee and drink it outdoors.
Find a pet to love on. They never tell secrets, adore you like nobody else, and are always cheerful. Even a goldfish has personality.
Work until the sweat pours.
Sit in the sun.
Do a project that takes a lot of handwork.
If I can tolerate being with people right than, have coffee with a friend.
*Get outside! I live on a small farm so this is easy for me. Plenty of work to do and nature to enjoy away from people.
*Take a nap. I tend to get discouraged more easily when run down. Too busy to do this with regularity, but it helps tremendously.
*Connect intimately with DW. She’s LD and responsive only, but she can be very intentional when she senses I’ve become distant.
I try to focus on the truth as revealed in the Word:
1) All of mankind is fallen and even believers will still wrestle with sinful desires and sometimes succumb to the temptation. We shouldn’t be surprised when we fail or when people we love and admire fail. We all have feet of clay.
2) God is GOOD – He proved it by having Jesus come as man, live the sinless life that we couldn’t, and for Believers take the horrible punishment due us for our sins (past. present, and future), and grants us the promise of Eternal life with Him. Live in the present with Eternity in sight.
3) God is SOVEREIGN – He is in control, even when it doesn’t seem that way. He is most pleased when we endure the trials and disappointments that we experience in life with our faith and confidence in Him intact…
2 Corinthians 4:8
We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed
So I try to see the trial or disappointment as an opportunity to please (glorify) Him and to attest to His reality to the unsaved around me by my demeanor in the midst of disappointment. God will not waste a tear and each has the potential to glorify Him. And I remember that He is “keeping the books” and will reward faithfulness in Eternity.
Directly–I try to understand the need/weakness behind the other party’s failure. I look at things through their eyes. Then I think about some of the worst ways I have disappointed others and give thanks for the forgiveness and grace I have received. When it’s just a world thing, sometimes I have to just say “Welcome to the handbasket” and remind myself that one day Jesus will come and set everything right.
Indirectly–I agree with others, find a pet and soak up some fur time! Get my DH to hold me. Get lost in a good book. Nap. Sit on my front porch and listen to the cottonwood leaves and the birds and the breeze. Play music and dance. Play with words or colors. Find an internet rabbit hole and spiral on “interesting things I never knew” or ghost stories. Shop for a new dress (not buy, just shop).
When i had my kitty cat, i would bury my face in his soft fur, it was like unconditional love of God (i’m tearing up as i type this because i am kitty less right now) this mostly happened when my husband and i were at odds and i felt so alone inside, it made me feel the closest to the Lord. Thankfully that doesn’t happen very often at all.
Music. I adore music, i don’t have to ever take drugs or even think about it, i get as close to a high as i can with music, only wish it lasted.
Right now i’m exploring YT vids on how to actively change my thinking and to not just go with my feelings all of the time.