What do guys like?
What are some things guys like? My husband is great at playing with me and I dont know where to look for new ideas or how to come up with some. But hed love a few new moves, and I’d love to try some 😁
If you haven’t tried this already, you might want to pull the skin on his penis a little tighter than usual (if he has a foreskin, pull it fully back, if he’s circumcised wrap your hand around his penis and gently pull down – ahh is good, ow is bad). Anything you do to the head at this point should feel very nice. Certainly, anything by hand or mouth is easy. Doing this during intercourse is a bit trickier because you have to get your hand between the two of you. Some positions are easier than others.
My husband and I just recently discovered he likes me playing with his balls. Cupping them during a HJ, sucking/licking, just fondling in general. It took a me doing it a few times before he decided he liked it, so your husband may be the same when he says he doesn’t know if he likes it- he may just need a few more times to decide!
Most guys, but not all, like being seduced. Or even beyond that, just “taken”.
- Step in the shower and wash his penis until he comes.
- Grab him in bed and start sex without a word. That can be full sex for both of you, or something just for him.
- Walk into where he is in the middle of the day naked and motion him to follow you to the bedroom.
Guys generally like being teased:
- Flash him when he can’t do anything about it. Repeat.
- Get him good and horny before a date night, and tell him you will finish when you get home. If you want to take it further, tell him he can have a quickie before the date, but he’s not allowed to come.
- Tease him all day, or for a few hours before bed. That can any combination of words, flashing, and feeling him up.
A major fantasy of most men is to watch their wife masturbate. If you can do it take it all the way then ask him to jump on and have sex. If you’re not up to that you start and have him finish you. Or do it as part of foreplay.
As to he’s not sure what he wants, that could be about being afraid that what he wants it wrong, or that it will offend you. There is also the reality that asking for something and not getting it hurts. When you initiate new things it’s safe, and if makes him feel you really love him and want to pleasure him.
Something you could try, is lubing him up heavily, making an “ok” symbol with your hand, and using it to stimulate him. The critical part, is barely put any pressure on his shaft, and, that your strokes be extremely short, and slow. Your “ok” fingers should be in contact with the ridge of his glands, both on the upstroke, and downstroke. Again, hardly far at all, and almost zero pressure on the shaft. You’re just going back and forth across that ridge, nothing more. Do not make it longer, or squeeze him firmly. Your touch should be feather light, barely touching him at all.
Keep lube in your other hand, so you don’t have to fumble for more during the act. Keep the stroke consistent – don’t alter the rhythm or speed, keep it slow, and methodical. The heavy lube, and extreme lightness of touch, should feel like you’re lightly gliding on a layer of lube, rather than being skin to skin. The parameters I explained – the lightness of your touch, shortness of stroke, and slow speed, are are necessary to accomplish the desired result. So don’t deviate. It’ll be a much slower build than he’s use to, and he may beg you to go faster, squeeze harder, etc., especially towards the end.
Don’t. He’ll thank you later.
This thread has lots of awesome ideas. I showed the list that ShadowSpirit posted to my husband and asked him what are his top three. Of course he liked all of the suggestions but when forced, he picked these three:
- Use your hand on the shaft and your mouth on the head
- Stop stroking for a short time to tickle/tease him very lightly on the shaft, head, or testicles with your fingernails (don’t do this if he’s really close to climax)
- Couple the HJ with sweet talk or dirty talk.
And if he could add one more, it would be this:
- Touch yourself while touching him
Attitude is half of it. I know guys like a woman who is bold in her desire, talks about what she likes about his penis, shows admiration for it, etc. Also, technique is important. Playing with his balls while using her other hand on his frenulum, shaft and head is a great technique. Also, I’d recommend sucking on his nipples while stimulating him manually. Giving him visual stimulation at the same time is also important. Showing off your body boldly, and even touching yourself in front of him are also great ways to get his engine going.
Some things I enjoy that haven’t been covered.
1. Text him boob shots and other bodily images throughout the day to get him in the mood for the evening. You can throw in some dirty talk along with the pics.
2. Call him on the phone and describe things as you masturbate. That should get him in the mood for some fun once he gets home. 🙂
3. Once in bed, use you breasts to stroke off his penis.