What is the most ‘edgy’ (your definition) sexual activity you engaged in with yourself or your spouse?
‘Edgy’ is your own definition. The question is intended to share creative insight to enhancing your marriage bed’s excitement. All of us have ‘comfort levels.’ Sometimes our comfort level is governed by ‘old tapes’ or uncertainty if ‘it’s ok’ or ‘is this normal’ or ‘would my spouse be ok with this and even like or enjoy it’.
Does sex on the pool table count as edgy? Spilling stuff on the pool table is not edgy though, just expensive. It’s edgy to have sex in the pool in the twilight. We bought an oversized dildo that vibrates which is very edgy playtime stuff. I learned that you can sit on it and it will go all the way in.
Sex on a public park picnic table at night. Sex on the hood of our Firebird in what we thought was a secluded area, only to find that we had been in full view of a long range video camera at a nearby government building. They came to ensure she was okay. We finished and we’re about to drive away when the other vehicles showed up. Oral on me in a moving car. I was driving. Her MBing on the passenger seat as we drove on vacation. All with my late wife.
With new wife, Analingus, anal, making sex tapes, holding her down and “taking” her (when she’s in the mood).
That’s it, so far…
There are several ‘edgy’ activities that I’ve or we’ve engaged in.
Although we don’t engage in an ABR (adult breastfeeding relationship) we do simulate ABR. We enjoy me suckling Mrs. Oldbear’s breast(s) as she cradles my head. We find it equally nurturing and erotic for both of us. Not always does it lead to PIV, mutual masturbation, or orgasm for just one of us (usually me). Quite often (at least once a week) I’ll suckle her breast (willingly and generously offered to me) for a minute to 5 minutes.
AS/AP on me
pain/pleasure play including spanking
sex in public (but unseen) places (ocean/beach, swimming pool, campground shower with separate stalls that didn’t go all the way to the ceiling, picnic table in a backyard, cars in a parking lots).
prostate massage for him
rough or “fighting” sex
The question and our answer may be a double entendre. While we’re not into heavy bondage, we do use restraints sometimes which we both find really erotic. And when we do, there can be lots and lots of teasing and edging before my orgasms.
Introducing ‘edgier’ activities requires trust and timing. Some are tried and get a ‘meh’ or ‘let’s not try that again!’ Other edgy experiments turn out to be turn ons!
I’ve shaved (completely) Mrs. Youngbear/Oldbear numerous times and it’s edgy and erotic for us, however . . . asking to shave Mrs.Youngbear/Oldbear may get a ‘no’ or a begging ‘please!’ It’s a ‘no’ if foreplay hasn’t ramped her up and begging for more. It’s a ‘no’ if her annual health check-up is around the corner; she’s shy about the Dr. seeing her shaved. It’s ‘please’ if we hit just that right moment in our passionate foreplay.
For a long time, I hesitated to try anal play on Mrs. Oldbear although I really, really wanted to try it. In my friskiness one time I touched her anal area. She responded verbally and with her hips. Since then, she craves full on AP. AS is a different matter. It’s between ‘please’ and ‘let’s not try that again!’ Mrs. Oldbear, as I, would find AS very edgy and erotic. However, the pain (even with lots of lube and prep) puts it in the ‘let’s not try that again!’ category.
I guess I though we were getting pretty edgy until I started hanging out here. 😉 Now everything we do seems pretty normal, which is kind of the point. I guess the thing that still gives me pause about admitting it, which probably means I think it is edgy, is AS.