What was the reality of your Valentines Day?
Share the good, the bad, or even the ugly. Did plans go smoothly or was there a turn, that ended up in laughter or tears? What did your spouse end up doing or how did they react? Or, what about you, how did you react or what did you do?
Ours didn’t go as planned, but it turned out good nonetheless because we spent it together! Our girls were supposed to go to my parents for the evening and we were going to go out to dinner and ML on an empty house before the kids came back home. Older daughter got sick midday, so we stayed home, got takeout, watched TV, and answered a bunch of lists of questions to ask your spouse. Lots of laughs, and a few surprising answers and things learned about each other. After younger daughter came home and went to bed, we had a fantastic time in bed (older daughter is the one we worry about being awake and hearing us, and she slept from dinner time til this morning).
Just goes to show that you can have a great time together even when your plans go out the window. It’s all about choosing to enjoy your spouse, whatever the circumstances!
Pretty much a normal day for us, which is what we wanted.
We got our BOGO burritos 🌯 for breakfast. Normal work day, followed by a quick bit of exercise for the whole family (very much needed and not normal lately.)
Then dinner, bedtime for the young ones, Dad time for the oldest, chores, shower, and ended by watching part of Avengers: Infinity War in bed on the tablet before passing out.
We had an awesome session the night before (that actually got to the good stuff shortly after midnight on Valentines morning), so no need to slip that in.
So about as expected and what we wanted. Oh, and I got a free chocolate rose 🌹 but forgot to give it to her…
Despite my earlier post, we had a great day. I took the day of from work and took the family out to play at the local museum. Kiddos took naps in the afternoon, then we delivered goodies to our neighbors (outreach opportunity.) I cooked a fancy dinner for the fam, kids went to bed, and the wife and I had a fire with wine, cheese, and chocolate covered strawberries. After that, well, I was left a little disappointed but still a great day
Our Valentine’s Day was celebrated on Thursday, mostly. 2 children had appointments, one being due to a severe ( non life threatening) injury 4 years ago. We took the one child out of school at noon, as we live almost 2 hrs from our shopping center. I had asked DH the day before, if he didn’t want to come and drive us. He said sure, if the younger ones had a place to go after school. It all worked great, and good thing he came with, as the weather got severe with heavy, blowing snow, and the roads turned really nasty.
He went and bought some beautiful roses for me, after dropping us off at the appts.
Supper was at a family restaurant with 2 teens, one who was cheerful and (always!) talkative, and pleased for the great deal she found on books. Lol the other was the know it all, always right teen. But I thanked them all for the nice day. And I haven’t heard yet, but am assuming all checked out well with the specialty testing. In summer, if all is stable, we can quit going every 6 months. Hurrah!
Our oldest DD picked up the littles on her way home from work and we weren’t sure if the last half mile of road would be passable. But she made it and we did too, although DH had to clear the road the next morning so anyone could get through.
Actual Valentine’s Day was good too! I was doing some charity work, although its a hobby of mine any way. So I was having lots of fun. DH did all the dishes for me. Than when I said I would help wash them, he said oh no, there’s only 2 pots to wash. And for supper, I made a lemon dessert, as 2 in this house don’t like chocolate and a couple don’t care for cream cheese. As for me, whats life without chocolate?!
Mrs. Oldbear and I spent the morning with one of our advisors and then enjoyed an hour and a half lunch in a fine restaurant. Flowers arrived for her in the afternoon and we exchanged V-day cards. The evening was spent with the fireplace ablaze as we enjoyed a two-part BBC mystery movie. Then we cuddled a lot, prayed together, and enjoyed a blissful sleep.
It was an odd kind of VDay.
I had to take VDAY off so I could close on my parent’s condo, which is about 40 minutes away from where DW and I live. My mom passed away two years ago (May 2018), and in July of 2019 we had to move my dad into an assisted living facility close to us. It is a long story, but in brief it took a while to sell their condo but it is finally gone, saving him a boatload of money. It was kind of emotional for me; although my siblings and I did not grow up in that condo, my parents lived there for about 14 years and we have lots of memories of holidays and birthdays there with our kids. In an act of great kindness, my DW let me get new irons this year, and I actually scheduled the fitting prior to the closing. It made the day a bit easier to take. I have the best wife in the world!
While I was at the closing, my wife met her parents for lunch. Her parents moved into an independent living facility that is about two minutes from where my dad now lives. The place where DW’s parents are had an outing to a German restaurant, and my wife and a friend met her parents there. DW reported it was a really nice outing.
Knowing that VDAY was going to be more or less ‘celebrated’ apart from one another, we had sex on Wednesday, and went out to dinner on Thursday. The sex was really, really, great. My wife had been sick with the flu, and we had not had sex for over a week. I won’t go into all the details, but she had an really good O in what was record time for her (under five minutes). As far as gifts go, DW got me some dark chocolate. I am trying to go ‘low carb’, and it turns out dark chocolate is not only tasty, but it is good for you and is relatively speaking low in carbs. I made a card from my wife that included some lines from ‘The Song of Solomon’. I got the idea from a post on this forum that had a joke story about Valentines hearts with lines from SoS. The one that made me laugh uncontrollably was ‘Ur hair = flock of goats’ Naturally, I started her card with this line.
Oh, and in case there are any golfers reading this, I ended getting a set of Titleist T300 irons. According to Trackman, I will get about 8 yards of extra carry compared to my old irons. Can’t wait for Spring to get here.
For V day this year I planned two surprises for DW. One was a Valentines Day dinner for her and her grandmother. We are close with DW’s grandmother and I wanted to let her know how much she was appreciated. I originally planned to cook something myself by because of time constraints I had to get something from a restaurant instead. It worked out quite well.
The second surprise was that I had gotten a nice hotel room for DW and I for the weekend to relax. She was quite pleased with this. Being in a hotel that was obviously cleaned and well maintained greatly reduced the severity of her OCD symptoms. I picked a room with two beds so that one could be a “sex bed” while we slept in the other one. This also greatly helped her.
We didn’t have PIV on V-Day because of exhaustion but we did spend an hour or so making out and I manually stimulated her to a couple O’s. That was very nice and set a good mood for the rest of our stay.
The next day we stayed in. Watched some Hogan’s Heroes and a BBC Nature Documentary. We also made love for the first time this year. She wore a lovely piece of lingerie that featured crotch-less panties. I was so afraid I would PE since it had been a while but I managed to last for several minutes,
So to sum it up things went very well. This time helped us renew each other and even gave me some ideas for future activities.
We had some positives…. first, we tend to try to celebrate at a different time to avoid crowds, so we did our main celebration on the 13th. On the way home from work, my husband had plans to swing by and pick up a rose and a card to write a note in. But, he got left later than wanted, so he knew that he had a choice, pick up the gifts or be home on time. He said he always would have gone for the gifts, and was even on his way to do so this time, but he changed his mind, he turned around and got home on time. As we were driving to dinner, he frankly asked me what my preference would have been and if he made the right decision. He had! 🙂 :clap: Even as a Gifts LL, his timing is far more important and impactful on me.
Over dinner, his desire for me drips off his tongue (this is common) and he shares what he “wants to do”, but then he said, he realized we can’t (I was in my period “no-zone”), and that “this was the perfect Valentines for [me], because [I had] zero pressure of anything sexual.” I laughed because I had the same thought, but I wasn’t going to say it. We had a nice dinner and we enjoyed some shopping afterwards, and then came home to watch a movie (in our room.) The benefit of TV in the room 😉 as he was rubbing my back, while watching the movie, I felt sexual desire stir, so I initiated and we paused the movie.
For actual Valentines Day, we gift our children with a little something, and we just did our normal Friday night family night. He did write me a love note as I was away at my morning Bible study (he received one from me the night before.) When we went to bed, he had in his mind sexual plans, but it came out and he remember it was a scheduled night off for us. I gave in and gave him an extra Vday gift.
There was nothing fancy, no elaborate plans or jumping through hoops or flames, but it ended up being nice for both of us.