What’s going on in your life?
Maybe it’s lighthearted or serious. Maybe it has to do with sex and marriage, or nothing to do with it at all. How are you keeping busy? Are you traveling? Are there life changes? Any there any “wow” lessons the Lord is teaching you?
Last Fall we found out my dad needed to do about a 6 month long round of chemo (leukemia, and this is round 3 or 4 over the last 20, almost 25 years). We were living in W TX, far from family in Idaho – gotta be where they’re drilling for oil if you work in the oil field. At the same time, we were struggling with life in the area, especially our teens. W TX is a crowded place during an oil boom, and school life is rough when schools are overcrowded, under funded, and lacking teachers. So, during Christmas break, we moved my DW and kids home to Idaho to be close to family and to get back to the small town life we’ve always loved. It was definitely in line with God’s plan for our family, as everything lined up so well and we have seen tremendous blessings ever since. The only problem is that I have not been able to leave TX. The separation is, as I keep telling people, not ideal. We work hard to communicate, take advantage of the digital tools we have to be a close knit family, and make it all work. I go home about once a month, for a weekend, then back to it.
Thank you both for your prayers.
We didn’t sleep last night, but we are still together.
Marriage is the hardest thing sometimes even when both really love one another.
I think we’re both wounded and raw right now, but we feel closer even though that sounds wrong.
I think I’d give anything for this to never occur again. We’ve both caused damage.
Thank you Dutchess, and thank you SeekingChange. For both your prayers and admonition.
We have been traveling (vacation), having a funeral and unexpected company, more traveling (family reunion), and making plans for more traveling in a few weeks (an anniversary trip, 25 yrs).
We are expecting grandbaby #2. I have ‘end of the year, state requirements’ to finish up for our homeschool. Son #3 is going in for his first job interview at son #1’s work place this week. Son #2 has moved into full time work and training for management.
In the midst of this, we get to be a support to my dil in her family drama (divorce, affairs, eviction, etc). Also, getting to deal with the fun ministry things like smoking marijuana outside the church and what kind of expectations around MJ use and serving. And people’s opinions of guns in church.
We are also thinking our marriage therapy/counseling might be coming to an end, or at least to a place for a break.
I left the house for the first time Wednesday and we have resumed our Fun Fridays for our DD, where all her friends are invited over to hang for the evening. She’s begging for school supplies on Amazon since I’m not doing any store shopping right now, and I’m doing a LOT of hanging out online, particularly at TMB. 😀
Some things are routine, some things are new. Have been traveling for work a lot lately, but instead of the hated hotel stays, I now pull a 26 foot travel trailer so in some ways home travels with me. My dog, Serenity, travels with me. She is anything but serene, but she helps me to be. My son has been on the last few jobs with me, and he has really started to find his self confidence and no nonsense dedication to difficult tasks.
In the short term, I am not driving home this weekend, but my wife is driving up to stay a few days with me. (The biggest benefit of my trailer is her willingness to come see me out of town). We will be making a short road trip this weekend to Ft. Sill, OK. My Maternal grandfather passed away before I was born, and he is buried at the National Cemetery there. I have never seen his grave. Obviously, I never knew the man, but I feel connected to him. He Served in the Army in the Pacific theater during WWII. My mother gave me his New Testament, which was given to him by an Army Chaplain when he accepted Christ in 1947. I think it was the only thing she had of his.
Personally, I am in the middle of a terribly technical job that has left me pretty much drained every day. I won’t say I am in over my head, but sometimes I wish my employers had just a little bit less confidence in me.
Thanks to all who have shared so far.
Well, DW and I just found out we have an algae in the drain tile around our foundation that is causing a water leak in our basement. (It clogs the drain tile preventing the water from getting to the sump pump). The fix requires putting in a new drain ALL AROUND THE PERIMETER OF THE BASEMENT, which requires us to remove ALL THE DRY WALL!! The cost will be in the neighborhood of 25K!!!!! I hate algae.
On a more serious note, we just moved by dad into assisted living, and my DW’s parents will also be moving into assisted living near us.
On a lighter note, I have been able to enjoy golfing once or twice a week. It is one of the best things for reducing the stress in my life (other than hanging out with DW). I have improved to the point where a sizable fraction of my shots actually look like real golf shots; now I just have to get the driver to work more consistently and I will be able to shoot reliably in the low 90’s, or better!
Currently enjoying second trimester of my first pregnancy WAY better than the first trimester, getting ready for baby boy with projects around the house/registry/researching/etc, trying to restore relationship with my dad, preparing for DH to make some big steps in his career over the next year, studying for a certification my work pays for while also preparing for me to quit after baby (dreaming of homeschooling!)… I guess we have a lot more going on than it seems just going day to day!
It’s our 24th anniversary today and it SUCKS.
I bought him a special engraved piece and he ‘tried” to buy me a new wedding ring set……
We’ve been arguing and hashing this out for several hours now.
I think he’s packing his stuff and headed out the door.
Happy Anniversary to the Man have spent half of my life with.
Busy as all get out as they say in my part of the world. Good stuff though. Family birthday celebrations, our wedding anniversary, a major work anniversary, church stuff, additional work responsibilities, home projects, helping my aging parents.