When did you first use a toy together?
I was thinking back recently and recalled the first time we used a toy together as a couple. My DH bought a vibrating C-Ring and one night suggested that we might like it since I so enjoyed clitoral stimulation when we had sex.
I was curious, for those who use toys, when and how did you introduce it to your marriage bed?
We were on a trip overseas and were visiting an electronics store. Fascinated by their items, we found a small vibe, about the size of a lip balm capsule. For it’s size it was awesome for clitoral simulation. It lasted several years. Then we bought a bigger one! A Hitachi wand! So we have been using them for a couple of decades. The main reason was to enhance stimulation for DW!
From the very beginning (25 yrs ago) we have used things, though I am not sure if they classify as “toys”. We started with these novelty items in a mens restroom that you could put in 75 cents and get. I recall a ring he would wear that was supposed to “tickle” as he was penetrating. I know we also would get creative with househild items. Our first official toy, where we had to go into an adult store and buy, was a dildo with a vibrator that inserted into it. I also ended up prompting him to trash it, out of guilt, after a month or so. We have multiple cases of toys now, and we are guilt free 😉
it was about a year or 2 years ago (been married 39 yrs) and even though i had a raging sex drive due to HRT, it was hard to get over the top and i became frustrated. I suggested a clitoral vibrator (actually i just went and bought a couple) and remember being very nervous and afraid and posted on the old TMB forum and was encouraged. DH was a bit turned off and off put by it and i said HEY…if you can take a pill for your ED, then i can certainly have an aid to help me!!!
It sat on the night stand for a while before i got over the embarrassment to use it and he was actually encouraging me at that point to use it and now he’ll whisper in my ear when we’re ML “where’s your toy?” 🙂
I am about to be married for the second time and I don’t know what role toys will play in this new relationship, but in my first marriage, my husband introduced C-rings and the. A buzzy little bullet vibe. I did not enjoy the sensations it made so he went looking for nicer, deeper vibrations for me, which he found. He bought lots of fun stuff for us to try over the years and I always looked forward to “Toy Tuesdays.”
We used various ‘toys’ throughout our marriage, including the creative use of phalic-like items. Our one and only toy was a vibrator purchased 35 years ago. Mrs. Youngbear was more ‘meh’ than stimulated by it. In our last 15 years we have been toyless.
We did not use a toy in our marriage until sometime in our 24th year of marriage. It was awkward, the experience, not the toy. I introduced the toy by saying that it was something that I wanted to try. The toy was a bullet vibe. six years later she is the one who most often asked for toys, though in a generic sense.
Several years ago I bought a cheap bullet vibe which did nothing. I bought a larger battery powered vibe which did nothing. Then we went to Brookstone in the mall and bought a corded vibrator. A young man waited on us. we were both beet red with embarassment. That vibe worked! First orgasms for my wife. It’s still her favorite.
Since the, we have bought a Hitachi, an Erosicllator and a couple of Satisfyer toys. They all work — sometime sin less than a minute. DW has multi’s every time.
I don’t remember how many years we had been married, but it wasn’t many when I bought him a set of fun “naughty” gifts for our anniversary. Among them was a shiny metallic 6″ vibe. At first I felt a little awkward because I could achieve O with it but not PIV and I was afraid he would feel inadequate or some nonsense like that. Also, early on we hadn’t figured out that it’s a whole lot better when he uses it on me than when I do it myself. (He just has a way of looking incredibly bored, even when he swears he is not, that is a total mood killer!) it still works, though it is getting less reliable, so we have tried some replacements lately but the best replacement is one that is almost exactly like it. Just a plain (does bullet refer to size or shape? because this one is bullet shaped, but I always think something 6″ long is too big to be called “bullet”.) ordinary variable speed–no fancy patterns or anything, and it never goes inside. Many, many, many-many-many Os. 😀