When do women “usually” orgasm when making love?


    DW:s, when do you  “usually” have your orgasm when making love with your DH?

    During foreplay, during intercourse (PIV) or after intercourse?

    When would you like to have it of you could choose?



    DW doesn’t O from OS or PIV, so our foreplay ends with her O’s from her toys, then its DH turn to O from either teasing HJ or PIV

    on August 19, 2019.
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      Usually, at the end of PIV. If my husband was a little quick on the draw, and I desire an O, then he takes care of me afterwards. Hardly ever, to almost never, do I O ahead of PIV, that’s my choice and preference.

      Under the stars Answered on August 18, 2019.
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        If we are finishing PIV, I have my orgasm after he is completely done and has withdrawn from me.  I lay back in bed and he does manual internal stimulation while I stimulate my clitoris.  If the foreplay and intercourse have been really arousing, I can have an orgasm in about 90 seconds with this method.

        If we are doing PIA, I usually orgasm simultaneously with him, through self-stimulation of the clitoris.

        I have never had an orgasm during foreplay, OS, or PIV.

        As far as when I would  like it,  I would love to experience an orgasm during PIV or OS – I would feel more connected.  The way we do it now, I feel like I’m having sex with only myself. 

        Hammock Answered on August 18, 2019.
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          DW usually orgasms at the end of PIV just before me, or at the same time, or sometimes after mine if she’s struggling to get there due to hormones. Never during foreplay. We both prefer her to O just before me during PIV.

          Double bed Answered on August 18, 2019.
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            DW always Os during foreplay. Several times. It is not certain that it will happen during PIV. And, rarely does she O after PIV. She doesn’t have a strong preference. But enjoys having Os, whenever and however they “come” 😀

            On the floor Answered on August 18, 2019.
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              I don’t O during foreplay unless there is OS. I would say I normally O just before DH and during PIV. We like to time it so that when I O it stimulates him to O, if that makes sense. There are times when I’m ready to O within 3 or 4 minutes of PIV (with a vibrator) and we’ll change our position so DH O’s more quickly. Sometimes it will take longer for me, so we’ll choose a different position so DH can prolong his O. I’d say 20% of the time DH O’s before me, but usually this is on purpose and WOT. Sometimes I really want to be the one doing all the work and without a vibrator, so I don’t O during PIV.  Very empowering! DH or I will finish me off afterwards.


              Queen bed Answered on August 18, 2019.
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                98% of the time I orgasm from OS prior to piv.  The other 2% is during intercourse with me stimulating my clitoris.

                California King Answered on August 19, 2019.
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                  Usually “during foreplay” (although by that point we are no longer thinking of it as foreplay) with a vibrator several times. Then he Os during PIV. When we do it in the opposite order, I sometimes feel like he is bored waiting for me to finish, which just kills it for me and sometimes I don’t get there at all.

                  On the floor Answered on August 19, 2019.
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                    DW usually O’s from manual stimulation of the clitoris after PIV. This is for several reasons:

                    1. She is more aroused after PIV.

                    She can orgasm before IC but she reaches her full aroused state after PIV.  The thrusting and my O really turn her on.

                    2. How do I put this politely? Her body movements during an O are very vigorous. 🙂

                    We have orgasmed before during IC but her movements are so powerful that I am honestly afraid she will rip my member off. 😮 Much better for her to have the freedom to move and jive without worrying about hurting me.

                    3. During and after an O DW’s vagina gets very tight.

                    When she O’ed during IC her vagina became almost painfully tight. It also remains somewhat tighter than normal after an O. Thus intercourse is more enjoyable before her O.



                    Hammock Answered on August 19, 2019.
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                      If we’re doing PIV, she’ll have it either right before mine, or at the same time, or right after. Just depends on what we feel like.

                      Hammock Answered on August 18, 2019.
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                        When we used to ML, I never O’d during PIV, and not afterward either because PIV kills my arousal.  We rarely even did PIV when we had sex.

                        Fell out of ... Answered on August 19, 2019.
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