When do you masturbate?
With all the talk of masturbating, my question is when do you find time to do it?
Do you tell your spouse you are going to go do it now?
Do you wait until your spouse is out of the house?
Especially those who both masturbate almost every day, and than have sex almost every day. Where do you find the time?
DH and don’t do it a lot, although we are fine with it. But I sure wonder where everyone finds the time. We have our own business, we have a family, work hard, have a huge yard, plus social obligations, lots of company, etc. live way out in the country so have a long drive to anywhere we go. It just takes so much time and effort to live.
Oops, I’m on my phone so I can’t go in to edit and add….
No, I don’t usually tell my spouse each time. But he knows I do it and we’ve discussed what’s okay and not. The only stipulation is he doesn’t want it robbing from him. He has actually gifted me with different toys for me to use, if I wanted. I seldom use them, because that would take time. A hand is very sufficient, and if I don’t want to put in the little effort that takes, I just grab my Satisfyer Pro that is right above my head, on our headboard by my phone. If he happens to walk in on me, he locks the door, strips off his pants and jumps into bed.
I often MB in the hotel room when I infrequently travel. I have a private office at work that locks and I’ve MB there while on break or at lunch. I’ve also MB in the shower occasionally.
My wife’s prime time to MB is in the morning after I have left for work and before she’s rolling for the day.
We usually tell each other at a later time and it usually goes something like…….
“Honey, I masturbated yesterday morning. I used my toy and had a couple of quick orgasms that I really enjoyed” to which I will respond “that’s great, I’m glad you did. Next time go for three.”
DH keeps asking me to film myself and send it to him. I still have deeply ingrained feelings of embarrassment about the idea of engaging in M, even though I have decided objectively that it is not wrong, so I am unlikely to do it except as part of ML or when I feel entirely positive that no one will catch me. That includes not telling DH about it, unless I become bold and use it for a flirtation. Even then, it feels awkward.
I don’t MB daily, but when I do, it is most often in the morning. It’s just a way to wake up and start the day…I am not a morning person, but it gives me a boost…not a coffee drinker either.
The second most common time is in the afternoon. Because I have always had kids around 24/7, and I need my own downtime, or “nap time”, I will often go up, close my door, and lay down, usually to read. I think I use it to relieve tension.
Then there are the occasions, my husband is not in bed early enough, and I need a little relaxant to clear my mind and help me sleep.
It really only takes a few minutes, it’s easy to find time.
To be honest, I am pretty much always horny, so I might do it after I come home from work when I am just unwinding. I might do it before or after I take a shower. I might do it when I am changing into new clothes. I might even do it while laying on the couch. And as for work time, I probably work at least 70 hours per week. And we still have sex every night too.
I mentioned before that I very rarely masturbate, its not as satisfying to me as any activity done with dh. I usually do it only in times of draught when I’m feeling really pent up.
Do you tell your spouse you are going to go do it now? Usually I’ll ask him first (by text since he’s most likely not home or I’d be going to him) if he’s ok if I masturbate. For two reasons, one: I want to make sure he is ok with it and two: he knows I don’t do it often so by asking him I want to bring to his attention that I’m feeling like I need to and hopefully alert him to the fact that its been a while since we’ve had sex.
Do you wait until your spouse is out of the house? yes but not as a purposeful thing only because if he was in the house I go to him for sex instead.
Especially those who both masturbate almost every day, and than have sex almost every day. Where do you find the time? I don’t but for me masturbation is quick, usually 5 minutes tops, I can get myself there much more quickly than I can during sex but the orgasm itself is much less satisfying. If I wanted to I could find 5 minutes in my day.
DH and don’t do it a lot, although we are fine with it. But I sure wonder where everyone finds the time. We have our own business, we have a family, work hard, have a huge yard, plus social obligations, lots of company, etc. live way out in the country so have a long drive to anywhere we go. It just takes so much time and effort to live. I often feel this way not about masturbation but about sex, don’t get me wrong I love sex (and wonder sometimes if I don’t think about it even more than dh does) but its very hard for me to orgasm if I’m tired which is most nights. My favorite time for sex is morning or afternoon before I’m beat from the day and when we have plenty of time. Obviously that doesn’t usually happen Monday through Friday but we try to make Sunday afternoons “nap time” for mom and dad and sometimes the occasional afternoon after dh gets home from work as well. But once a week sex is not enough for me (or him) so we still have what I call “quickies” at night usually I don’t orgasm but I still enjoy the closeness and intimacy.
For myself, I rarely masturbate. Occasionally, during busy seasons, etc, but mostly for ‘use it or lose it’ reasons.
It only takes me a few minutes to get there as well. I very rarely feel horny enough that it drives me to MBing.
Also, its no fun doing that kind of thing by myself. I generally don’t feel better after, simply because there’s no connection with DH and I’m all by myself. I love the afterglow of sex, which is totally missing if I MB.
When I do, he’s never in the house. Hey, if he was, he would enjoy walking in on me, and if I knew he was going to, I wouldn’t be very relaxed. And of course, he would come join me /help me!