Which verse(s) or scriptural teaching has impacted your marriage bed? And how?
Hmm… I think the idea of “whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Cor. 10:31) and “Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men” (Col. 3:23), has had a significant impact on me. If I am acting and loving as to the Lord and for the glory of God, then my husband is the means by which to do it, and my choices and acts are not dependent on his actions and my feelings towards him. I may not be able trust him, but I can trust the Lord. I may not feel like he is acting respectable or lovingly, but I can’t say the same about how Jesus has loved me. I may not even feel like “loving” him at the moment, but to not love Jesus, I can’t even imagine.
I guess it is also summed up by Jesus’ words, “Love one another as I have loved you.” Jesus takes all my excuses away on how I should treat my husband. I know “sex” speaks love in the biggest way towards my husband. I know that I have a choice in my attitude and actions, no matter what (bad) choices my husband is making.
The first thing that comes to mind on our marriage is serving one another. I like John 13:12 “When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you?” My first obligation in our marriage is serving my wife. Not work, or my Navy reserve time, or my kids, or serving at Church, hobbies, friends, etc…my wife. The only way I can show her that is to humble myself and wash her feet. Is washing her feet as nasty as it was in Jesus’ day? No, cause we wear closed toed shoes. But I hate washing dishes and other household chores. Those are washing her feet too. That lends me to another verse,
Philippians 2:3-4 “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” She needs me to think of her first, whether it’s a hobby, a TV show, sex, or any other thing. I can’t give her anything if my motives are to get something in return, otherwise it’s futile.
If I’ve learned one thing in our marriage, it’s that I CANNOT think about my own needs above hers.