Who do you share with about TMB qna?
Ah shucks, I am on my phone so I can’t go and edit. In my previous answer I am speaking of people I know IRL. I actually have recommended here to multiple others that I have chatted with online. I may or may not tell them who I am on here, because I have done both. I recommend it when I see they are desiring a safe, Christian place to be open about sex and sexuaity.
Only my DW.
Anonymity is the main reason. That sounds selfish to type it out. However, if I recommended TMB to someone and they came on here, they’d almost certainly tie my IRL identity to this account. I’ve shared too much personal stuff to invite that to happen in my life!
I share about TMB with every couple that I do premarital counseling for, as well as any married couples where the need is evident. I always tell them what I do as Board Czar and what my name is on here, but I also assure them that they can be totally anonymous. I’m hoping that at least some have found their way here, if only for a short time. I am not shy about the benefits of TMB, as I feel it is the safest and best place to get accurate information for Christian marriages that exists on the Internet!
For those who share about TMB with IRL people (I believe that is @Dale and @OWM), has that impacted what you are willing to share or ask on here? From a total outside observer, I would guess it does, because you don’t seem to share much truly personal stuff, compared to those of us who appreciate the anonymity. Just curious. I think it’s good to truly consider all the pros and cons of losing the anonymity to those whom we may see face to face onna regular basis.
I like the anonymity and prefer it that way and hope that others come to it on their own. That may sound a bit like the 4 lepers who went to the Assyrian army for food and found the place deserted. For a time they reveled in their discovery but then decided they were doing wrong and went to inform the king of Israel to share the spoils. You might think this would be a place I would gladly recommend and endorse because it provides so much support, encouragement, and advice (not to mention some occasional laughs), but on the other hand some things shared are best left for the purpose of anonymity.