Who do you share with about TMB qna?

    Hi,
    Have you shared with anyone about this website that it has been useful? why or why not? If you have, how do you decide with whom to share and whom not to share?

    Queen bed Asked on November 18, 2020 in Activities & Items .
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      Ah shucks, I am on my phone so I can’t go and edit. In my previous answer I am speaking of people I know IRL. I actually have recommended here to multiple others that I have chatted with online. I may or may not tell them who I am on here, because I have done both. I recommend it when I see they are desiring a safe, Christian place to be open about sex and sexuaity.

      Under the stars Answered on November 18, 2020.
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        As much as I have wanted to on occasion, I have not due to wanting anonymity. I found TMB on my own 15 yrs ago and if anyone wants to search for Christian resources, it is there for the finding.

        Under the stars Answered on November 18, 2020.
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          Only my DW.

          Anonymity is the main reason. That sounds selfish to type it out. However, if I recommended TMB to someone and they came on here, they’d almost certainly tie my IRL identity to this account. I’ve shared too much personal stuff to invite that to happen in my life!

          -Scott

          Under the stars Answered on November 18, 2020.
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            I have only shared the main TMB website. I figure if God leads them to the forum, like He did me, then 1) they need it, and 2) they’ll be less likely to connect me to it.

            Under the stars Answered on November 18, 2020.
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              Yes, my DW several times including my UN and PW (although I have seen no evidence she comes here) and my brother who remarried this summer.  I thought about my oldest son but decided against it for the sake of DW’s privacy.

              On the floor Answered 7 days ago.
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                Just DW. Mainly for reasons of privacy.

                Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered 6 days ago.
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                  I have recommended TMB to friends who show interest in improving their marriages and marriage beds.  I have also mentioned the forum.

                  Under the stars Answered 6 days ago.
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                    I share about TMB with every couple that I do premarital counseling for, as well as any married couples where the need is evident.  I always tell them what I do as Board Czar and what my name is on here, but I also assure them that they can be totally anonymous.  I’m hoping that at least some have found their way here, if only for a short time.  I am not shy about the benefits of TMB, as I feel it is the safest and best place to get accurate information for Christian marriages that exists on the Internet!

                    Fell out of ... Answered 6 days ago.
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                      For those who share about TMB with IRL people (I believe that is @Dale and @OWM), has that impacted what you are willing to share or ask on here? From a total outside observer, I would guess it does, because you don’t seem to share much truly personal stuff, compared to those of us who appreciate the anonymity. Just curious. I think it’s good to truly consider all the pros and cons of losing the anonymity to those whom we may see face to face onna regular basis.

                      Under the stars Answered 5 days ago.

                      I don’t share personal stuff on here because I’m easily recognizable.  What I should have done years ago when TMB started as an email list was pick a different username, but how was I to know I’d still be deeply involved 20 years later! LOL  I had a second account under the old board system that I used when I wanted feedback on something personal, but haven’t done that since the boards got reconfigured.

                      5 days ago.

                      Thanks Dale!

                      5 days ago.
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                        I like the anonymity and prefer it that way and hope that others come to it on their own. That may sound a bit like the 4 lepers who went to the Assyrian army for food and found the place deserted. For a time they reveled in their discovery but then decided they were doing wrong and went to inform the king of Israel to share the spoils. You might think this would be a place I would gladly recommend and endorse because it provides so much support, encouragement, and advice (not to mention some occasional laughs), but on the other hand some things shared are best left for the purpose of anonymity.

                        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered 6 days ago.
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