Why Anal?

    Hey, wife here, just wondering why husbands can have a fascination or a desire for any kind of anal play? Obviously not judging, just wondering.

    I couldn’t get past the ick factor and even when squeaky clean down there, with any type of penetration (being the colon) there is always that possibility of contamination and that is what *I* am concerned about.  Not that my H has expressed any desire but its the one thing that is stopping me (besides possible health risks as i have hemmorroids sp?) but TRYING not to be TMI..i would always have to have an enema before any anal play.

    Just wondering what the attraction is?

    For me it’s an extremely loving act of offering me herself to me in a way that requires her to trust me. Let’s face it, unless the man is a downright selfish sadist, he’s not going to be able to enter her anus there unless she relaxes lets him in. For me it’s an almost humbling experience that makes me feel very close to my wife.

    It also feels amazing for the man since it is a much more snug fit than the vagina. I’d have to leave it to the ladies to explain why they do it.

    on August 11, 2019.
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      I know I am not a husband, but I can share the hints my husband has given.  There is something thrilling and arousing to do something taboo or “naughty”.  Not that we believe it is wrong, but because it’s not the norm.

      One other perspective that has been shared with me…. there is something for a husband to “have” every part of their wife.  There is no place that is closed off to him.  She is wholly his.

      Under the stars Answered on July 30, 2019.
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        We’ve both been rather intrigued by the though of AS but, in spite of lots of attempts, haven’t been able to make it happen.  It’s basically a size incompatibility thing.  But we (me!) love to use anal play and anal toys.  I find that there is a definite added pleasure factor when I orgasm with some resistance in both openings.

        Fell out of ... Answered on August 1, 2019.
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          I can’t think of anything more unpleasant and more of an arousal killer than an enema. If anything, that would probably cause a person to produce even more feces.

          If a person has had a bowel movement fairly recently, there will be no fecal matter in the rectum – it will be farther up in the colon. I still insist that my husband wash his genitals with soap and water immediately following anal sex to prevent any bacteria from going up his urethra.

          The anus has a lot of nerve endings that can produce sexually stimulating sensations. My most intense orgasms have occurred during anal sex.

          Edited to add that I wouldn’t recommend having anal sex if you have hemorrhoids.  I’ve never had them but it seems that being anally penetrated would aggravate them quite a bit.

          California King Answered on July 30, 2019.

          ahhh ok, thanks. Maybe it isn’t for me, then. But i definitely believe there is those sensations…

          on July 30, 2019.
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            Because it feels amazing when done correctly.  Everyone, male or female has a natural reflex arc between their clitoris or glans and the anus.  The anus is intricately tied into our orgasms.  It is not very unusual for either women or men to be able to orgasm through anal stimulation alone.  The ick factor is easily managed and is largely a mental block anyway.  Not everyone wants to be involved with anal stimulation and that is fine.  But many do.

            Double bed Answered on July 30, 2019.
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              I think that the draw to AS is about the angle of penetration.  Unlike Doggy style, you don’t have to put all the pressure on the thighs to squat under her.  Maybe its just that I’m taller than her.  The draw is also about the tightness of the act, its well, incredible.

              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on July 31, 2019.
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                FWIW, there is no attraction in AP or AS  for me.

                On the floor Answered on July 30, 2019.
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                  Personally I’m not interested. Hats of to those who like it and especially if it is good for both. I’m happy for you. If DW suddenly became interested, I might consider it.

                  It seems to me (speculation) that rear entry PIV, i.e. doggy style, would produce similar sensations and experience for the DH. But as been said, there are several major precautions to be taken.


                  Under the stars Answered on July 30, 2019.
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                    Not a husband  but for me it feels really good.   Not as a steady diet but occasionally to change things up. I have to be warmed up and we have to go more slowly than we do with other things, plenty of lube yadda yadda.  But it does feel intense and when paired with clitoral stimulation leads to some great orgasms.  I’m not in my husbands mind but he has shared that he likes how tight it feels, the “taboo” or not the norm factor and that no part of my body is “off limits” to him.   We have also never used a condom or done an enema and never had any issues (me or him).

                    On the floor Answered on July 31, 2019.
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                      Like others have said, my DH has mentioned the “taboo” factor and it just being another way to have sex, so why not! He didn’t always think of it as a possibility, but when we married and he was free to explore within marriage, it was just a given that it was something we could and would try! Turns out we like it 🙂

                      Queen bed Answered on July 31, 2019.
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                        I surely enjoy my DW’s rear. The attraction is: I like looking at it, touching it, and AS whenever she is up to it.  Some days, she just isn’t into being done in the rear.  I am, as another commented, a total butt guy.  I have always been intrigued with my wife’s rear and up until about 13 years ago, never had anal sex.  She is willing to try new things, and I for one, am all about new adventures.  When we broached the subject, she was willing to try anal sex, but not anal play.  However, after 40 years of marriage, she has warmed up to anal play if she is well lubed.  She orgasmed her first AS encounter and almost every time after.  She can do without AS because of the ick factor, but I like it a lot.  I am fascinated by the feel and the fact that she orgasms by AS 99 out of 100 times.  She isn’t opposed to AS at all, just not something she is going to ask for, BUT I am.  She makes sure she cleans for us.  She typically asks for the glass butt plug first (that is my physical size with a large base) with plenty lube, then after we have had about 15 to 30 minutes of foreplay time, she is ready.  Never use a condom, never had a problem, and yes, I wash after every anal sex love making.  AS about 2 times a week.  There are times when shortly after penetration, she says, “stop, it is not there today, it is hurting”, I immediately pull out, wash up and continue with vaginal sex.  That doesn’t happen often, but it does happen.  There are times where I have trouble with orgasm, but she has already O’d two to three times from AS.  I just stop and we try again later, or the next day.  My wife  is very much “ick” when it comes to being clean enough, but we enjoy God’s pleasure spots he created for us.

                        Twin bed Answered on May 29, 2020.
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