Why is swallowing semen important in marriage?

    Is it good to start oral sex before engaging in PIV?

    According to a study published in 2000 in the Journal of Reproductive Immunology, swallowing semen can make your body accustomed to someone’s DNA so that your immune system doesn’t act up during pregnancy. Since a number of pregnancy disorders stem from recognizing the father’s genes as foreign, introducing them into your body beforehand can help you out when you’re pregnant. It sounds strange, but scientists believe it’s a possible evolutionary explanation for fellatio

    https://www.glamour.com/story/why-we-have-oral-sex

    Queen bed Asked on October 24, 2019 in Oral Sex.
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      Setting aside the study and any comment on the effect on pregnancy (which is a condition I have never experienced), I will answer the primary question:

      Why is swallowing semen important in marriage?

      I do it because it adds to my husband’s enjoyment of fellatio above what he gets when I spit it out. It feels less (to me!) like I am rejecting what he has deposited in me through our love play, and in a very real way, I have accepted a part of him into me and am keeping a part of him with me even after we part. (After all, per God’s decree in Genesis, my desire is for my husband, so having that little bit of him in me helps me feel close to him.)

      I do fellatio to begin with because he feels extreme and intense pleasure from it and I like to please him. Having begun with the goal of blessing him, God blessed me in return by revealing a distinct pleasure in it for me.

      I don’t particularly care for the taste either, to be honest. It is a bit salty and pretty thick, and the closest approximation I can give to describe what it is like is snot. But I’m not eating a snack, I’m loving my husband.

      Ladies, if you’ve been thinking, “Gee, I wonder if I ought to reconsider and give that a try?” Take the leap! Sacrificially loving your husband will always be a worthy choice. (For those with particular needs that oppose this activity, you know you need to ignore that and take care of yourself. But in absence of unusual special circumstances,) Rock his world next time and see what happens to yours!

       

      Under the stars Answered on October 25, 2019.

      How sexy is gagging and potentially vomiting?

      on October 25, 2019.

      It’s not. I even have a bit of a sadistic streak in me somewhere, but I certainly don’t want to see DW gagging from me, even though otherwise I’d be thrilled if she did OS again.

      For women who don’t struggle with it, great for you, and be happy you can bless your husbands in that way.

      on October 25, 2019.

      I definitely allow my H to finish in my mouth but do not swallow. I almost retch at the taste of semen although i would never ever tell him that and i have trained my mind not to allow that (as best i can) but he’s OK with me politely depositing it into a kleenex, he once laughed and said is it gross and i said NO!! I don’t think it’s gross actually but swallowing would make me nauseous. I am SO SO thankful he’s not one of those that pouts or makes it a big deal that i don’t swallow, i think he’s just glad i choose to bless him in this way and i do it a lot.

      on October 25, 2019.

      Please read my last paragraph again. I directed that to those who already have an inner urging (i.e. possibly from the Holy Spirit) as an encouragement to not let anything hold them back. The first couple times, I also spit it out (and it made me nauseated). Because I wanted to bless him in this way, I became accustomed to the taste (even though I still don’t “like” it.) Even now I occasionally just can’t do it, and then I spit it out. I don’t make a big deal of it, and DH understands.

      I really hope the distinction is clear:  I only want to give a little nudge to those who believe the Holy Spirit might be calling them to explore this activity for the benefit of their marriage. Those who are not being called in this way should continue in what is best for them.

      on October 26, 2019.
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        Any studies that show it’s usefulness if absorbed through face skin?  cleavage?  lower back?  hair?  butt cheeks?  inner thighs? nipples?

        Asking for a friend 😛

        King bed Answered on October 24, 2019.

        I hope my DW is your friend 😆

        on October 24, 2019.

        I would think lots of women would enjoy it 🙂  It’s like my reward for giving him pleasure 😀

        on October 25, 2019.

        DW used to partake and seemed to enjoy it. We even did plenty of this pre-marriage since we didn’t partake in PIV (not condoning this). It was particularly good during her period or during her fertile time when doing NFP.

        But after our second was conceived, she slowly began phasing that out. Basically none of this in the last 2-3 yr, and very little the 3 yr before that. I hope that you can maintain your enthusiasm over the years, but in our 12 yr marriage, the back half has had very little of this. She’d rather sleep or read Reddit or a romance novel than give me focused pleasure. Since she hates the taste of my pre-seminal fluid, how can I blame her?

        on October 25, 2019.

        I’ve heard sweet juices can help a guys flavor.  Try drinking a bunch of pineapple juice. 😉

        on October 25, 2019.
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          I bet the researchers are all men who want their wives to swollow!! 😛

          On the floor Answered on October 25, 2019.
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            hey, even if it makes no difference, it sure is fun experimenting, right?

            California King Answered on October 24, 2019.
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              Well, seems hard for me to swallow that.  But I have a hard time believing how warm water can freeze faster than cold.

              Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on October 24, 2019.

              Pun intended?

              on October 25, 2019.

              😆

              on October 25, 2019.
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                Researchers suggested that the end product of oral sex strengthens a pregnant woman’s immune system and may even help foetuses grow healthily. Semen contains hormones and proteins from a man’s body, meaning women may need to build up a tolerance to it.

                 

                Queen bed Answered on October 24, 2019.
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                  Hmmm…. interesting….. we are past the procreation years, and I seemed to do just fine without this “aid”.   But ya’ll can give it a shot!

                  Under the stars Answered on October 24, 2019.
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                    I’m having my doubts. Except for the pre-fertilization time, the father’s genetic material has little to do with the pregnancy. Once fertilized, the new baby’s genetic material is its own and unique. Also, if a “tolerance” in the vagina and cervex are helpful, wouldn’t one get it from PIV ejaculations too?

                    And as SC said, DW and the kids did just fine without this “aid” (though she did take my ejaculate in her mouth once years before we ever conceived).

                    Under the stars Answered on October 24, 2019.
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                      And it’s good for my wife’s complexion too right?

                      Fell out of ... Answered on October 24, 2019.

                      I’m always glowing as I rub it into my skin 😛

                      on October 25, 2019.

                      I read about a woman who would rub it on her face because she heard it could be use for ‘facials.’  Maybe that was a misinterpretation of the term.

                      Btw, I learned about ‘facials’ here on TMB many years ago.  It’s still a weird concept for me.  

                      I’m not into the idea of my wife swallowing either, but we’ve never done it to completion.

                      on October 26, 2019.
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                        Interesting reading. I’ve often wondered about maternal tolerance to different genetic material. The abstract seems to liken it to an allergy, so it would make sense that each woman would have a different response.

                        It makes me wonder about Dh’s best friend. He and his now-wife were pregnant within a month of meeting each other. That ended in miscarriage. They got pregnant again 3 months later, and she had preeclampsia with a delivery just at the age of viability. He survived, but she said she felt like she struggled the whole pregnancy. Their second child was born six years later, and the pregnancy was uncomplicated. Perhaps this buildup of tolerance is what caused the story of her pregnancies.

                        Life really is a miracle.

                        Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on October 24, 2019.
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