Wives – Do you enjoy making out?
My wife doesn’t much enjoy ‘making out’. This make foreplay feel difficult and one sided as I’m trying to arouse her.
Wives, do you enjoy making out?
If not, what is undesirable about it? How could it be better?
Any suggestions for husbands?
For the most part, no. I have a fairly narrow window of when I enjoy it. When totally emotionally connected and when aroused. Kissing is far more vulnerable to me, plus because I have a more sensitive nervous system as an introvert, when I feel overstimulated, any kind of touch can be bothersome, and kissing can be too much on the senses.
My wife doesn’t care for much of it either, which always baffled me as I see it very much as foreplay and building up slowly rather than immediately going to ‘the main event’ – which is what men are often said to be too focused on. Or alternatively, as a substitute to “going all the way” when that’s not feasible or desired.
It’s clearly one of many ways in which people can have quite different preferences, and spouses may differ on.
Answering for my wife, yes, she does enjoy making out. We kiss frequently and cuddle a lot. She is more open to making out if she knows it doesn’t lead to sex. Nearly 100% of our sex time is discussed beforehand, so if we are kissing or cuddling, she has no fear it will lead to sex. I never cuddle with her with a thought or expectation that is might lead to full sex and since we started doing that, she enjoys it way more.
Depends on what you define as making out…as foreplay leading up to a full sexual experience, yes! As just making out and going nowhere, no. I have to make the mental switch to “get into” sex, so if I want to become responsive in making out, I switch mentally to “we are having sex”.