Would this bother you?
I am wondering how you would react and if you would be bothered under this scenario?
Your spouse and a teenage child head out in the morning. You are told they will be home between 1:00 and 2:00. Come 3:30, you hear nothing, so you text, no reply. Around 4:00 you try calling, it goes straight to voice mail. You call the teens phone, it won’t go through. You call several more times, same results. You ask your other grown kids if they heard from their parent … no. At 4:45, 3ish HOURS past expected home time, you finally get a call.
Are you bothered? Do you care?
It might bother me, but around here cell service is not 100% reliable. There have been times my wife has been out past the time I expected her back, and I wasn’t able to get a call or text through. Mostly I get worried about her safety versus getting annoyed with her if I don’t get a reply.
I’d be worried (okay, probably panicked, but that’s just me) more than mad. I’d want to know why it happened. If it was just carelessness about how their actions affected me (as opposed to a phone issue or another good reason) then I would be somewhat mad. Edited: No, not somewhat. In all honesty I’d be pretty darn mad.
It would bother me, and it would bother my DW. I spend a lot of time hunting and fishing and I’ve been guilty of doing this. I not only accepted my wife’s anxiety and irritation in these cases, but I knew I would feel the same if the role were reversed.
I have a brother-in-law that routinely
I do appreciate all your thoughts…. it is nice to know that my reaction wouldn’t be uncommon or that it isn’t wrong. My husband would probably fall where @Nova is… so he has no real grasp of what those actions/choices do to people like me. I could be that person as @LBD mentioned, in a ditch or on the ground dying, and I could not count on my husband having any thought to be concerned and come looking for me…. and that’s why I usually communicate with other family members 😉 Although we have talked about this enough in our past, that he knows, and apologized for putting me “in that place of fear” (although that’s just the tip of the iceberg.)
My wife and kids would have no excuse for a dead cell phone. I buy charger or usb cables in all the cars. The only saving grace from a bigger fight would be that she (or I) would have a teen with us because otherwise, that would probably trigger a ghost of the past for both of us.
I’ll join the chorus of “I’d be bothered/worried by that.”
But it doesn’t matter how all of us would feel–it matters how you feel. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way, nor is there much you can do to change how you feel. Thus, it’s up to you and your husband to get him to understand that this part of you needs to be respected by him. That’s part of being in a mature marriage.
It would bother Me. I try to let DW know if I am running late
Unfortunately, She is not as diligent about keeping Me posted. She does not always keep her phone on her person , and does not always check it, or let me know what is going on. I have learned that it is how she is, and if she misses out on something, well, it is her own fault.