Would this bother you?
I am wondering how you would react and if you would be bothered under this scenario?
Your spouse and a teenage child head out in the morning. You are told they will be home between 1:00 and 2:00. Come 3:30, you hear nothing, so you text, no reply. Around 4:00 you try calling, it goes straight to voice mail. You call the teens phone, it won’t go through. You call several more times, same results. You ask your other grown kids if they heard from their parent … no. At 4:45, 3ish HOURS past expected home time, you finally get a call.
Are you bothered? Do you care?
Yes, it would certainly bother me, very much so. One thing both my parents and DW and I are really sensitive about is keeping your word. If you say that you will call at 3:30, then you should call at 3:30, plus-minus a few minutes. This is very important for me too and I readily admit if somebody does not keep their word, I get angry.
In fact, as a child growing up it was a shock for me to discover that other people (some of my friends) were far more relaxed about this in general. They might say “I’ll come round on Saturday” and then they didn’t turn up. Later I realised they didn’t mean to upset me, it was just one of those things people do.
Yes it does bother me. She might call and tell me she is closing up, which means she should be home within half an hour and then I get a call an hour or so later saying something came up she had to take care and won’t be home for another hour is wearing. Sometimes she will text and tell me to go ahead and eat because she isn’t sure when she’ll be home. Many times, though, she’s quite wrapped up in what she is doing and can’t make a call because what she is doing is an emergency. I do my best to be understanding and supportive, but it can be a challenge when it’s too many nights in a row.
It might bother me, but around here cell service is not 100% reliable. There have been times my wife has been out past the time I expected her back, and I wasn’t able to get a call or text through. Mostly I get worried about her safety versus getting annoyed with her if I don’t get a reply.
I’d be worried (okay, probably panicked, but that’s just me) more than mad. I’d want to know why it happened. If it was just carelessness about how their actions affected me (as opposed to a phone issue or another good reason) then I would be somewhat mad. Edited: No, not somewhat. In all honesty I’d be pretty darn mad.