Would this bother you?

    I am wondering how you would react and if you would be bothered under this scenario?

    Your spouse and a teenage child head out in the morning. You are told they will be home between 1:00 and 2:00.  Come 3:30, you hear nothing, so you text, no reply.  Around 4:00 you try calling, it goes straight to voice mail.  You call the teens phone, it won’t go through. You call several more times, same results.  You ask your other grown kids if they heard from their parent … no.  At 4:45, 3ish HOURS past expected home time, you finally get a call. 

    Are you bothered?  Do you care?

    Respect, honor and politeness  go together. In a world of constant connection, yeah, most people would be bothered unless the place they were going had poor signal towers, or a busy event that kept them off the phone.

    Also, are they the missing persons upset and apologetic as well? This is missing from the narrative.

    Is someone telling you to NOT be upset? Did the wife/teen give you a return time or a time to have them call back, etc?

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      Not generally, but I understand that these kinds of things bother others.

      Queen bed Answered on May 22, 2020.
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        Yes, it would certainly bother me, very much so. One thing both my parents and DW and I are really sensitive about is keeping your word. If you say that you will call at 3:30, then you should call at 3:30, plus-minus a few minutes. This is very important for me too and I readily admit if somebody does not keep their word, I get angry.

        In fact, as a child growing up it was a shock for me to discover that other people (some of my friends) were far more relaxed about this in general. They might say “I’ll come round on Saturday” and then they didn’t turn up. Later I realised they didn’t mean to upset me, it was just one of those things people do.

        Fell out of ... Answered on May 22, 2020.
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          As one reporter used to add,   “And, here is the rest of the story!  ”

           

          Smart phones  do die or fad out.  People do lose track of tim

          Queen bed Answered on May 22, 2020.
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            As one reporter used to add,   “And, here is the rest of the story!  ”

             

            Smart phones  do die or fad out.  People do lose track of time.   We have lost the pay phone!

            What is the rest of  the story ? ?

            Queen bed Answered on May 22, 2020.
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              I would be bothered. When I am running late, I try to let people know where I am.

              On the floor Answered on May 22, 2020.
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                That late…at that hour…you would have to peel me off the ceiling…and I would make her call the police and tell them why it was a false alarm. 😀

                Under the stars Answered on May 22, 2020.
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                  Yes it does bother me. She might call and tell me she is closing up, which means she should be home within half an hour and then I get a call an hour or so later saying something came up she had to take care and won’t be home for another hour is wearing.  Sometimes she will text and tell me to go ahead and eat because she isn’t sure when she’ll be home. Many times, though, she’s quite wrapped up in what she is doing and can’t make a call because what she is doing is an emergency.  I do my best to be understanding and supportive, but it can be a challenge when it’s too many nights in a row.

                  Blanket on a secluded beach! Answered on May 22, 2020.
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                    It might bother me, but around here cell service is not 100% reliable. There have been times my wife has been out past the time I expected her back, and I wasn’t able to get a call or text through. Mostly I get worried about her safety versus getting annoyed with her if I don’t get a reply.

                    Queen bed Answered on May 22, 2020.
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                      I would be bothered by that.

                      On the floor Answered on May 22, 2020.
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                        I’d be worried (okay, probably panicked, but that’s just me) more than mad. I’d want to know why it happened. If it was just carelessness about how their actions affected me (as opposed to a phone issue or another good reason) then I would be somewhat mad. Edited:  No, not somewhat. In all honesty I’d be pretty darn mad.

                        Under the stars Answered on May 22, 2020.
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