Would you do PDA in front of Jesus?

Have you seen this, the controversy over Candace Cameron-Bure and her husband, over a PDA photo? She is smiling as her husband cups her breast in a photo.   One person upset over this photo actually said, ““A good rule of thumb in your pictures posted is would you do that in front of Jesus Christ. That picture of your husband grabbing your breast would never have happened before Jesus Christ,” 

What are your thoughts?  

 

Personally, I am on the Bure’s side. I think that quote is so absurd, it makes me laugh, but it shows a bad teaching or belief. Aren’t we doing EVERYTHING in front of Jesus Christ?  Not just a cupping of a breast over clothing, but complete nakedness, all the moans and groans, every single act.  Isn’t this what being “naked and unashamed” is about?

OK i have to admit i watch her Hallmark Christmas movies, LOL, even though i cannot stand Hallmark, i do like the Christmas movies, they’re pretty and save me from burning through my Sci Fi queue.

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    Not for me, for sure, but… it may be argued that it’s biblical.
    Proverbs 5:18-19
    “18 Let your fountain be blessed,
    and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
    19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
    Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
    be intoxicated always in her love.”

    At all times? Ok then. 😊

    King bed Answered on September 12, 2020.
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      It doesn’t bother me, though I would not probably not post a picture of me grabbing DW. As others have said, the Trinity sees all we do anyway, and sex was God’s idea.

      @MrsNerd; I like the quote from Proverbs. It is actually nice to see a long-time married couple who are obviously still intoxicated and in love with one another.

      On the floor Answered on September 12, 2020.
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        I saw this story online and considered posting something here.  I see nothing wrong being playful with my wife and taking a selfie. Posting the pic on line is a bit much in my mind, but I’m old school. I agree with SC.. we should be naked and unashamed, or clothed and unashamed with our spouses, enjoy each other! Thanks to MrsNerd for reminding us of Proverbs 5:18-19, a great passage about sexual pleasure in marriage.

        Hammock Answered on September 12, 2020.
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          I agree, it has nothing to do with the presence ofJesus. However, she has 4.5m followers, which makes her a witness to a vast group of people from different backgrounds. That’s poor judgment and hints at pride. ‘Look at me! See how sexy my husband thinks I am!’

          Remember the good old days when people only took risqué photos with Polaroid cameras or took their film to a little Fotomat booth in another town? Now people post everything for all the world to see.

          On the floor Answered on September 12, 2020.
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            I think posting a picture like that would be slightly tacky, but I guess I kind of want to give her intentions the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she just really loves her husband and the picture made her so happy she couldn’t resist. My first thought when I saw it was “good for them!”, I thought it was cute funny.

            Queen bed Answered on September 12, 2020.
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              If it was me and DW I wouldn’t have posted that picture. Sure, I love touching DWs breasts and I often sneak in a boob squeeze or two in a public setting if I’m sure no one is watching. That said, there is no way I would publicly share a picture of me touching her sexually.

              It is not because I wouldn’t “do it in front of Jesus” which is an absurd contention given that He is seeing everything that goes on. Rather it is out of respect for my wife and keeping our sexual relationship between the two of us.

              Now if Jesus was physically standing there in front of us I think both of us would more focused on, “Holy cow Jesus is standing in front of us” than playing around.

              On the floor Answered on September 11, 2020.

              Agree

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                @Bill, but couldn’t it also give the world a picture of what a healthy marriage looks like? Shouldn’t a husband be able to touch and have fun with his wife? Shouldn’t the abused be able to see things in a way that’s right and healthy so they can actually KNOW the difference between the two? Do you think everyone that was mentioned stays away from TV and movies, because I can guarantee you they will be exposed to it there, and at school, the mall, the beach…and how much of that actually portrays a happily married couple, the one place it is good, healthy, and righteous?

                My first thought when reading this article, was this is a classic visual of what I have heard many go off on here (the old more than the new) and around the “Christian marriage/sex” circles, about how the church has failed in teaching about sex. That photo and her words afterwards, is a Christian (the church) teaching about married sexuality. And if she has as many followers as @LIL stated, she just reached more than one sermon or church has.

                I won’t even go into the fact that there’s more than likely much more of a backstory to the photo.

                Under the stars Answered on September 12, 2020.

                But there has to be a limiting principle when it comes to PDA and showing what a healthy marriage looks like. Obviously posting a picture of them in the middle of lovemaking would be inappropriate so the line must be drawn somewhere.

                on September 12, 2020.

                Well sure, but a boob grab over the clothes is not inviting others into their bedroom, like your other example.

                on September 12, 2020.

                But what about if he had his hand under her clothes? How about if he had his hand on her crotch over the clothes? Wouldn’t it be better to stick to physical affection that isn’t overtly sexual when sharing a picture to the world?

                Not trying to be difficult. Just want to understand why others draw the line at different points.

                on September 12, 2020.

                Do you know how many pictures we have taken where the natural placement of my husband’s hand has been over a breast? It wasn’t intentional, and it wasn’t something we were aware of until we saw the photo, or if we became aware of it, we start laughing and joking. I imagine that could very well likely be what began with this whole photo/pose.

                Draw your personal line, and let them draw theirs. But I also know that one of the biggest impacts on me and desiring to change my marriage and sexually, was witnessing a Christian friend/woman who made it very clear she loved her husband and loved sex…..this was a case of it being good of “wanting what you don’t have.” Just like with Jesus, people have to see our lives and want what we have, before they will ever want our Jesus. Let me ask you this…. do you think if young people, or anyone desiring marriage, looked at the Bure’s or looked at the stereotypical, prudish Christian couple/marriage that is often portrayed, whom do you think they would choose to go to for advice and counsel? I know I would choose the couple who portrays a healthy, (sexually) vibrant marriage. Maybe I am unique, but I doubt it.

                on September 12, 2020.

                Good point SC!

                7 days ago.

                @SC – Why would it have to be a choice between just those two options? (The Bure’s photo and the stereotypical prudish Christian marriage)

                Just because you give people two options, doesn’t necessarily mean that either of those are good options. They may be, or they may not be.

                Couldn’t there be an option for a healthy Christian marriage, where the husband had his arm around his wife’s waist and gave her a kiss (like @Scott suggested)?

                Also, just because a certain number of people might choose the Bure’s photo over the prudish Christian marriage, does that mean that particular option is therefore right and should be emulated? They only had two options, so for some people one option could just be less UNappealing than the other, rather than being what someone would actually aspire to be like.

                (I’m not saying anything about whether the photo is appropriate or not. Just commenting on the “which would people choose” argument that @SC used in her comment.)

                7 days ago.

                Invalid point. Even if the husband had his arm around her waist kissing her, there are people who would have something negative to say about it. There always will be. In a perfect world, we would all be walking around naked. Married touches are just that touches. Completely natural. I have witnessed unmarried pastor’s children in more intimate settings IN the crowded church pews. CCB has been incredibly open and a good moral compass for 2-3 generations of young girls. NOTHING wrong with this picture.

                6 days ago.

                @MomOf5 – Are you directing your comment to me? If yes, what is invalid about my point?

                I’m saying that giving someone the option of two different choices doesn’t automatically make either of those choices good. Do you think it does?

                And if someone has to choose one of those two options, it doesn’t mean they think their choice is what they would want to aspire to personally. It just means they had to choose one of those two options, so they picked one. They might think the one they chose was great, or they may not think it’s great.

                How is that invalid?

                I’m not commenting on the appropriateness or otherwise of the picture. I’m saying that if someone wants to defend the picture, then using the “which would people choose” argument that @SC used is flawed.

                6 days ago.

                @MQ, I should have specified the comment to which I was referring. Agreed, choosing between two options is like choosing at the voting booth! I was just saying that the choice of the photo with his arm around her waist isn’t valid. Again, that’s choosing between one thing or the other, and either way someone is going to have something negative to say.
                The comment about what if it was under her clothes – it wasn’t, so that doesn’t apply.
                I’m not a man, nor have I struggled with visual images like pornography, but I don’t see the relation between this photo and porn.

                6 days ago.

                MQ wrote:  “Just because you give people two options, doesn’t necessarily mean that either of those are good options. They may be, or they may not be.”

                So true… OT but why did my mind immediately take me to the upcoming election?    Apparently Mo5 had the same thought!

                5 days ago.
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                  When I saw this story make the news I wondered if it would make it here on TMB! Glad it did! I side with her. It was something playful and in comparison to what else we see on TV or in movies, it is innocent – and they are a married couple, no less!

                  Would I post such a picture? Probably not. (It’s been about 5 years since I posted any picture!) Might I have been caught in such a pose? Certainly not! (Just kidding 😀 )

                  How about we start a “Support Candace Cameron-Bure” movement by all of us Christian couples posting similar pictures online?!

                  Under the stars Answered on September 12, 2020.

                  LOL! on the idea of a movement.

                  on September 12, 2020.

                  I’m ready! DW and I spent an hour taking pictures 😀

                  6 days ago.

                  LOL… as we were trying out the pose last night, because of @Scott and @NWNL’s own experiments, my husband asked, “Do we need to take a picture and you post it!?!”  He was just talking about on here, to prove the ease and naturalness of the pose, but we could take it to the world wide web!  😆

                  6 days ago.

                  Well that would be interesting.

                  Not that I’m endorsing/condoning the idea, but technically a fully clothed picture with faces cut/blurred out and no identifying information in the background could be posted here and not break the rules, right? Just curious on the hypothetical here, not suggesting it!

                  -Scott

                  5 days ago.
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                    Candace’s comment on it, and I personally love it, and do/would have the same attitude!

                    “”For all the Christians that are questioning my post with my husband’s hand on my boob — my husband of 24 years — thinking it was inappropriate, it makes me laugh because it’s my husband. We have so much fun together.”

                    In addition, she added, “He can touch me anytime he wants, and I hope he does. This is what a healthy, good marriage and relationship is all about.””

                    Under the stars Answered 7 days ago.

                    Yep, I love her comments!!!

                    7 days ago.

                    Regardless of the original intent and the appropriateness, I did like those two comments. Those of us that grew up around/near purity culture (and our generation mostly knows who Bure is) could use more messages like that.

                    -Scott

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                      Jesus see’s all.  No hiding anything from him.

                      The real question is would I do that in front of another person?  That answer is no.  I would not want to cause a brother or sister in Christ to stumble.

                      Queen bed Answered on September 12, 2020.
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