Would you/Do you ML when your children have friends sleeping over?

    I thought about this while answering “Sex Time and Schedule” because we tend to have a lot of sleepovers at our house during the summer.

    Funny story, when I was 9 or 10, myself and 2 others were sleeping over at a friend’s apartment. It was a small space, just a 2 bedroom. Her parents had gone to bed but we stayed up late. At some point we heard some noises. My friend said we could hear better if we put drinking glasses to the wall. Needless to say, her mom was either getting a great massage or her H really knew what he was doing. We spent that night giggling like crazy and couldn’t keep a straight face at the breakfast table the next morning. I could not bring myself to look her parents in the eye and if I looked at my friends, we’d start laughing, so I just stared at my bowl of cereal the entire time.

    In my own marriage, I have been caught by my son…. and it was baaaaddddd. Probably more for my H and I than my son, he was only 6. I was on top with my rear end facing the door… the door we supposedly locked. We did not even know how long he was there because we didn’t hear the door open. And things had gotten… aggressive (in a good way) at that point… and the naughtiness level was waaaaayyyy high… and hands and mouths were EVERYWHERE. Since then, we double check the lock and move a leather bench in front of the door.

    I could not imagine that happening with someone else’s child! I’d be mortified!!!

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      We have.  No big deal.  We aren’t particularly loud or acrobatic while having sex.  So it’s never been an issue.  But we also aren’t an ‘every night couple’, so it is just as likely to just skip that night(s).

      Twin bed Answered on August 3, 2019.
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        It hasn’t ever stopped us that I can remember, and it’s the only time I bother to wear anything to bed.

        Queen bed Answered on August 4, 2019.
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          We just lock the bedroom door. No big deal.

          I think all of our sons have walked in on us at some point. We tried to cover up real quick, but I don’t think there’s any doubt of what was going on. Mum and dad kissing and hugging… 😉

          Nowadays we always lock the door…

          They see us both in varying state of nakedness every now and then when changing clothes, going to/from the shower or changing into swim wear on the beach etc


          Queen bed Answered on August 7, 2019.
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            We still have sex because they are usually in the basement and our bedroom is upstairs 🙂

            Queen bed Answered on September 4, 2019.
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              We have…and will continue to do so. Wife has no problem with it, we just need to stay quiet.

              Funny story though: bonus daughter was apparently in the living room which our room is off of. Apparently, she heard us and tells the story of how when that happened she QUICKLY ran away to her room. DW wanted to ask who or what she heard but never had the gumption to ask… UNTIL one night at dinner it came up somehow so she asked and my bonus daughter replied it was mom. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 DW lost it. When my wife gets really embarrassed, she turns red on her chest and face. She quickly turned so red she looks like she got 3rd degree burns. DW had really thought she’d say it was me. It hurt from laughing so hard. She was so embarrassed!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

              On the floor Answered on September 5, 2019.
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                We do still.  We just lock the door and try to stay on the quieter side.  The only thing we do differently is that we sleep with some pjs/clothes on when the kids have friends sleepover  (usually we sleep in the nude).

                On the floor Answered on October 29, 2019.
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                  we will sometimes ML when there are other kids at the house over for a sleepover. It just depends on how rambunctious they are being and how tired we are, etc. We don’t feel great about having a locked door and losing focus for a while when they’re all still awake and doing who knows what out there. It’s not a matter of them hearing us or seeing anything as much as it is worrying about them burning down the house.

                  California King Answered on October 29, 2019.
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