I've been thinking about the topic of personality types in the MB ever since I saw it briefly mentioned by PaulB in a this TGH post a while back: Package Deal in the Bedroom. Specifically, in it he said the following:
I'm not quite sure about the third sentence (is there a typo/mistake?), but just the general idea piqued my interest. While I realize that M-B personality types and similar concepts are merely a framework for modeling and understanding a continuum of possible personalities, I still utilize them for a lot of my interactions.As I mentioned, Lori is an INTJ. That means we will never have swinging from the chandelier sex. It means she rave about how great sex was when it was great. And that’s okay. If those things had been critical to me, I would have married someone who is not INTJ.
Yet, I'd never really thought about their application in the bedroom. Maybe that's just because the movies/high school tend to make it out like personality in everyday life is totally separation--you know, the whole "she's shy/quiet normally but a beast in the bed" thing. But honestly, I think the personality type should play into bedroom behavior for many people.
Prior to typing this question, I did do a quick search and the top hit was this: What Each Myers-Briggs Type is Like In Bed (warning: there is an image of a kissing topless couple in the link...mostly tasteful with no breasts shown, but still wanted to warn). I read the description for ISTJ, which covers both Zelda and me, and it seemed to fit well for Zelda. But looking through most of the others, I really got the impression that the article was more horoscope like--maybe fun to read, but really just a demonstration of how your mind connects dots and infills gaps to make things fit. It didn't help that the article wasn't limited to just married sex either.
So, I thought it'd be good to have a discussion here on it. Anything related to this is fair game, but I did have the following suggestions for starting points (note, M-B = Myers-Briggs and MB = Marriage Bed...I know., tricky):
- Does the above M-B article fit in your marriage?
- Are there resources that are serious that discuss this and would be helpful?
- For you and your spouse, does your public personality in any way correlate to your MB behavior?
- For those that have changed M-B types over time, have you seen your MB behavior also change? Vice versa?
- Is anyone quite happy with their spouse's personality outside of bed but then wish they'd have a different personality in bed?