I definitely agree with this too. I have some positive feedback to present.Link+Zelda wrote: ↑Sun May 23, 2021 5:37 amI definitely agree with this. We've seen many stories here where that's true for people who did the seven-day sex challenge (or something similar). In general, there are a lot of positive feedback loops in the MB, and you want those feedback loops working for you, not against you. The biggest issue is getting both spouses on board at the start.Claymore wrote: ↑Sat May 22, 2021 8:08 pm I don’t know that it would fix anything, but more sex could be the beginning of a virtuous cycle. More sex leads to more intimacy, to deeper connection, to better sleep, which leads to more energy, to better mood, leading to better attitude, more affection, to more sex . . . onward and upward.
This Covid interlude, working from home for almost a year and a half now, no more commutes, gyms closed and those that have reopened at reduced rates, etc., etc., plus our personal situation, empty nester's, HRT and TRT driven libidos, has lead to more sex - much more than we ever had or could have had with our former lifestyles and schedules - and it has worked out just like @Claymore outlined above.
I can see a change in myself. I am different now that I get all that I want (and maybe more than I want.... contemplate that... or maybe that is more than I can handle....). I am more generous, more willing to do things that I would have previously resented being asked to do. In fact, I'll volunteer to do things that now surprise me when I do.
Sometimes it is just because the doing of them will require me to be in her presence, and that is a wonderful thing. Sometimes, it is just because of the joy of doing for her. Doing for her seems to have intangible rewards for me, so it follows the @Claymore cycle.....
I thought that @Claymore was absolutely prescient with his statement above.