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There are times when I direct my wife to look at me when she's about to and during "O". It is amazing and from my own personal experience, it can also be hard to do as we as individuals can be so overcome/overwhelmed by our own intense rush of pleasure.
Looking into one's partner's eyes is such an intimate thing. To be meaningful, I think you really have to like each other to gaze and stay there for any length of time; and when you O, it means you had to get into the moment, let go of yourself, and be free to experience the build up, pleasure explosion and release.
Another thing to note, that this can be hard for some women when one has been abused (probably closed their eyes during the abuse) or taught to be subservient or vulnerable to no one, least not a man, so sex with the eyes open might have to be grown into and a learned experience.
Sometimes eyes open and gazing into my wife's beautiful big blue eyes
Sometimes closed. At my age, my near vision is weak and sometimes even painful to focus up close.
Sometimes with lights on.
Sometimes with lights off.
I do not think about it as my heart, mind and soul are focus on the beautiful woman God gave me.
I do not understand why it is important.
EXCEPT; Close up, with my ancient eyes, I see her face and I see the face of the 21 year old I married. I think maybe this is yet another gift God gave us for being faithful, a man my age being in bed with a beautiful 21 year old model/singer.
It can be very different for individual men too. For instance, in our go-to position, I don't get to see either my wife's O face or her breasts.
I agree that most men are visual though. I use the visual factor as a "tuning knob", closing my eyes (or looking left...long story) to last longer/reduce arousal, or actively looking at the action to enhance arousal/hardness. Either way, the major controlling factor is mental, as I can certainly achieve O with my eyes closed.
What's interesting is extending this to having sex in the dark. Surprisingly, the naughtiness factor for us (since it's rare in our MB) means it's much more arousing than sex with my eyes closed in a partially lit room (partially lit is our norm). I think this all goes back to the most important sex organ being what's between your ears.