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Do you talk about your sex life with other people?

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Irnmyk
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Re: Do you talk about your sex life with other people?

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The answer for us is no, as well - exception being the anonymity of this forum.

One of the things that has truly amazed me over my life is how private most - and I'd put that in a very high percentile range - people are about their sex lives.

Those braggarts that do blather on about it, say in the gym locker room, I've written off to wishful thinking. Those that are doing it aren't talking about it.
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Re: Do you talk about your sex life with other people?

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Outside of online forums... never. Not once.

As a 2nd hand csa survivor, I wish I had a close friend, or a men’s group of other 2nd hand survivors to be able to share struggles with, in a respectful manner of course. I’m blessed to say the season we currently in is one of healing and great sex, but in our darkest times it was chaotic. I was depressed and didn’t have money for therapy. My wife said I often walked around looking grey. Her night terrors were constant, and waking up and holding her as she cried often left me depleted not having an outlet. Not being able to caress or kiss her without her feeling triggered felt unbearable at times. There were periods where I would have to physically wash her because she would go without for days... she would lash out and fight back out of rage that was displaced towards me. This went on for years...I have NOOOO IDEA how we made it through those storms, but our life today is a complete 360, and I can only attribute that to the lord. I know it wasn’t my own strength.

Looking back at it all, I wish I had someone I could’ve talked to in my darkest hour.


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Re: Do you talk about your sex life with other people?

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My wife and I have both shared quite a lot with some of our closest friends over the years. It has always resulted in good things, since we’ve been about to answer questions, help each other out with questions, etc.


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Re: Do you talk about your sex life with other people?

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mrandmrshumperdink wrote: Wed Jan 08, 2020 8:34 am Not just if you are having it, etc but sharing details or tips from particularly memorable sessions.
Just anonymously online. I think all of us on this forum do at least that.

My understanding is that women tend to talk more about this kind of stuff than men.

My wife was telling me she had a conversation with her cousins about sex after she got married. They asked how often I liked it. She said I wanted it every night. She said I was 20 cm long. When I looked it up in inches, it was quite an exaggeration, but I did not tell her to correct that with her cousins. One of them said after her baby, she was all messed up, and made this funny face with her mouth off to one side to describe her post-birth shape down below. My wife imitated the face, and we both cracked up.

I don't know if it is more the case of women in her culture talking like that, but I think it is a male female thing. Boys might boast in the locker room, but when we get married to a woman we care about, a man.... I think.... is less likely to talk to other men about such things, but women do.
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