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Couples Boudoir shoot

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Re: Couples Boudoir shoot

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TheAccountant wrote: Wed Sep 01, 2021 12:20 pm Got it. Good point, so what about this website? Lol
@TheAccountant, This website has zero nudity, to give clarity to your question. This website is for Christians to discuss different issues related to TMB. And you will see from time to time, some people find this website is too much for them and they leave, which is a wise decision for their situation. And some come here and find tremendous help and have life chanching moments.
Bottom line if this forum somehow, someway leads you to sin you should voice it and leave. But that goes with everything else in life for a Christian.

@David, thank you for clarity, nakedness is only for husband and wife to share the bible is clear on that. I guess using a self-timer is one way to do it as a couple.
I still don't know if the photo shoot is done professionally without any nakedness just a bit more revealing maybe that is ok, not sure. I guess a good question to ask to reveal motives is why you want to do it in the first place?
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I appreciate you both of giving insight and opinions on this. God Bless!
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Post by Irnmyk »

David wrote: Wed Sep 01, 2021 12:09 pm Leviticus 18 has lots to say about not uncovering people's nakedness.

Some things are supposed to be private between a man and his wife. Those things aren't supposed to be shared with a third party. End of.
While I respect and revere the teachings of Leviticus, Leviticus also has a lot to say about the not eating of a lot of my favorite foods - shrimp, oysters, bacon, to mention a few.

So, if one is going to bind the teachings of Leviticus in one area, they have to be bound in all areas. It's a dangerous precedent. I'm not sure I'm ready to go there.

ETA: So, I came back to add.... I'm definitely not in favor of any third party in my bedroom, so that wasn't my point above. My view of that has nothing to do with what God taught to people living in tents in the desert centuries ago. It has to do with my bedroom. My tent would have to be so far out in the desert to keep others from hearing what was going on that it would be in the next county.
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From pictures I have seen, there are ways to do it, without exposing oneself completely. I have seen less skin in some of those photos then I see at a typical pool or beach.
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, to find comfort, to survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years... and then she did something new.
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Re: Couples Boudoir shoot

Post by JustDesserts »

I think this ranges from “bad idea” to “sin” for a number of reasons, speaking frankly.

Bad idea: I don’t know how much these things cost, but imagine a budget of $500-$1000 for a more permanent solution: a decent camera, clothing, lighting, and set dressing. This seems like a better use of money. It makes it a cooperative experience, either training the camera on both of you or, even better, letting one of you photograph the other. There wouldn’t have to be any boundaries.

This is something I’ve contemplated myself, because I love the way my wife looks and hard as it is to explain there’s something special about permanent images even if she’s right there in person. My chief concern is privacy. I’m dealing with that using Veracrypt and an air gapped computer, so ideally no one but us will have access to our photos (though who knows if the encryption will hold forever). No clouds or untrustworthy devices or websites.

So no limits, permanent access to clothing/camera (which has other uses)/set for actual lovemaking purposes, and plenty of opportunity for a collaborative, fun exercise where you might learn a thing or two about photography. I just can’t see any drawbacks to the alternative.

Sin: I can’t think of a way this isn’t directly involving a third party in something that should be kept between spouses. It’s hard to know exactly where the line is, but I feel like this is over it, even if the clothing isn’t revealing.

After all, it’s not necessarily clothing, but context that is important. I am sure there will be controversy on this, but nudity is not inherently sexual. I think this has been recognized throughout the Christian world for centuries. The David is not sexual. Heck, even The Birth of Venus is not sexual. A two-piece swimsuit isn't, either. And yet, it is completely possible to be sexual and sexually suggestive without exposing any skin at all.

This type of photo shoot strikes me that way, and I would be wary of it.

Edit: Notable exceptions to my concern here would be a female photographer taking her photos or a male photographer taking the husband’s photos. But this leaves a “couple’s” shoot out of the equation.
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I don't want any photo taken of me that I would not show my kids. No photos for me; no regrets.
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Re: Couples Boudoir shoot

Post by olafthewise »

wow! there are lines to not cross and I think we all know what those subjects are!
A female doing the shoot for her is best and who says total nudity is required?
Many years ago when I was getting a passport photo done by a female photographer, her studio was in the back room and (I was 22) on the wall were many color portraits of large photos including a young woman topless in a lace panty. It sort of shocked me, but I asked about it and she explained it was a boudoir for someone and it made sense, as opposed to porn work.
I have seen many boudoir portraits done and few are full-on nude with all parts showing. A portrait with a mans parts is not necessarily a turn-on for a wife. Female parts are better but lets get real; in those discreet portraits you shield those parts, showing only a portion. If the woman shaves down there, the photo can go real low and still not reveal much, just skin. Breasts can show the sides and still be reasonably discreet.
AND remember, these portraits cannot remain hidden for long. If a teen in the house discovers it, they may be shocked or enthralled that mom is so beautiful. If you hide a full nude portrait that's 11" x 8," in your closet that your teen finds, he/she will be certainly shocked. So keep this in mind.
Doing the shoot with a female will be easier for him and her. No to most male photographers.
Doing the shoot by yourself is better but the above points are still important yet, lighting is best done by a pro.
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