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For those men who accompanied their wives in the delivery room, did you experience this? Right after the baby was born, the nurse or doctor takes the baby and puts him and her in the incubator, puts drops in the eyes, etc. I'm over there with the baby, counting fingers and toes and talking to the baby, and my wife says something like, 'Can you come over here with me', wanting me to hold her hand while she pushes the placenta out.
I don't mean to be insensitive, but the new baby is a lot more exciting than holding her hand to push out the afterbirth. I went back for her.
I'd imagine that scenario goes on in most deliver rooms where the father is present unless the wife doesn't care if her husband is there for the last bit of the ordeal with the placenta.
Btw, I saw a bit of a TV show where a woman drops into a neighbor's house and gives birth on the couch, and they just skipped over that placenta part. They showed a clean two-month-old and she didn't have to give birth at all. And he says to get hot water and towels. If it were me, I'd go get a tarp or two to put on that sofa.
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I just wanted to say that I would be more interested in the new baby, too - so don't feel bad. 😀
Best way is to have the baby straight onto the mother's chest, and both mother and father can be doting over the new baby while the placenta exits.
Fun side note: I got the privilege of announcing the sex for all of ours (we chose to not find out sex beforehand).
My DH must be the exception to the rule as he cares about baby, but I remember him being very sensitive to be there for the afterbirth, without me asking him to be. 💜
Times have changed! I was with DW for about 3 hrs while she labored but was not allowed in the delivery room for the actual birth of our oldest (who is 41 now)... they wheeled DW out with our son on her chest, tightly swaddled. I gave them both a kiss and the nurse took the baby and I watched her wash him up through the window, while DW was taken to her room where she stayed the rest of the night and the day before being discharged late afternoon. I was allowed in the delivery room for our 2nd (he's 39 now) but was told to stand up by her head and hold her hand. So I saw our son born (kinda).... and watched the nurse wash him up in the delivery room while they attended to DW. Ditto for our 3rd son except they tied DW's tubes after she delivered - I wasn't in there for that. I knew what was happening but didn't witness the afterbirth in any of the three. It was 3 different docs /hospitals in three different cities (1979 thru 1983) but pretty much the SOP for all of them.