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When we married, I was 28 and she was 25.
We did not have sex prior to marriage. We kissed when we got engaged, and made out a lot during our engagement. Only once did we “cross the line” and there was some groping. But nothing beyond that.
We started dating and had sex a few times, then decided not to anymore until we were married, which was nearly a year later.
At the time I was 19, was not going to church, I always had until then. Skipped out for a few years, then got back to church.
Do I wish I had waited? Probably should have, I know a lot of young people don't wait, but I would advise it for sure. It is something special you will always have if you wait.
Were you a Christian? Yes.
Were you regularly attending church, reading your Bible, praying, fellowshipping with other saints? Yes.
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I was, DH was not. When I get discouraged about our MB I wonder "I waited for this?!?!?".
Yes, I was and DH was too.
Regularly attending etc ............. yup. Regrets .......... no point.
There was a poster, a woman in seminary, who said something similar. Apparently, she had been promised an ideal sex life if she would wait in some kind of purity-focused church event.
IMO, that is the wrong motivation. Marriage might be better, and probably will be, if you wait. But the reason not to fornicate, primarily, is not to sin against the Lord, and secondarily not to sin against others.
We aren't supposed to steal. That doesn't mean if we won't steal we have a happy life or have lots of cash. Or if we don't kill, that doesn't mean things go well for us all the time. There are consequences for sinning, but we are not guaranteed easy times if we don't.
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Exactly and if we look even deeper the main motivation should be love of the Lord and of others. We don't serve the Lord to earn brownie points, we do it because we love Him and have a relationship with Him.
A trivial example is the other night when my wife fell asleep with my pillow. I didn't want to disturb her so I just slept without one. It wasn't super pleasant but I did it because I loved her. My motivation was purely one of love, not to get her to do something later out of obligation.