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So how is clean is yours?

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So how is clean is yours?

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Some say, "cleanliness is next to godliness".  Apparently, according to this article, cleanliness is next to sex too. So how clean is your boudoir? Or at least your area in the boudoir? Do you make the bed together?

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/couples-most-sex-common-bedroom-143400730.html
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If I get out of it in time, he will help me, but I like to linger a little longer so he usually has gone downstairs by the time I am making the bed. We do change the sheets together because it is just harder to do that job alone!

The rest of the room could use a lot of work and has been on my radar for quite some time. And yes, it is distracting at times. I really want to completely purge it of everything that doesn't belong there and then make it a romantic retreat where no one else is allowed...except that it is access to two other rooms upstairs. :(  But I'm brainstorming creative ways to do a quick "set change" between when it's just us and when it's essentially a hallway.
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Re: So how is clean is yours?

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Ours is clean. DW loves the feel and sight of clean and simple and decluttered. And she works at keeping it that way.

We make love together, but only occasionally make the bed together!
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We are a couple that defies the statistics. :D We have a catch all pile in front of some shelving in our room. I have had to decide not to waste my energy on it. I have often put the time and work into clearing it out. My husband comes home loving it, but I can almost guarantee within a few days, he places stuff right back there. That causes more anger and angst in me than the continuous mess, so it's a battle I have chosen not to fight.

We are simple people, in this warmer weather, we have a sheet and light blanket. In colder weather, we throw a comforter on. No extra pillows. My husband pulls up his side when he gets up, usually a few hours before me. I tend to throw the covers back and roll out of bed, a made bed has NEVER been important to me.
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It seems to be working for you, so perhaps statistics are made to be broken. :D
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I have witnessed DW make the bed up literally just an hour before she gets in it for the night. It physically makes her ill to see it unmade for more than a little bit. And she will typically not let me help because I don't do it to suit her, lest there be a wrinkle or a slightly off center sheet.

of course sometimes I'll do that just to mess with her :lol:
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Me too LBD. I’ll put the throw pillows ON but that doesn’t mean they are placed and displayed in the “proper” manner. I enjoy placing them on the bed with a foot lift. :D
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I just wanted to add this thought.... with my personality, I have a very limited amount of energy. When I worked on making sexual changes, IF I truly wanted to make changes, I had to choose what I would focus my mental, emotional and physical energy on. Things like keeping things organized and clean (w/ 4 kids home 24/7) and cooking meals every night, changed. But my husband was very happy to eat pizza yet again, or have a messier house in exchange for the change in his wife. I stole this saying from Julie Sibert at Intimacy In Marriage.... "What I lack on my feet, I make up for on my back." :lol:

Maybe couples who desire more intimacy, need to let some things go, rather than add one more thing to their list to do. Too often we let perfect rob us of good.

 

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Re: So how is clean is yours?

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Great tips! I’ll try it and see how it goes. DW has been sick for weeks (not COVID related at all), and I’ve taken on much of her share of the duties, which we’ve split since we married.

Her love language is acts of service, so I’m sure tidying up our room (which is mainly her stuff! 😉) will bless her. Even if it doesn’t add to more sex, I’ll be glad to lift her spirits.
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Re: So how is clean is yours?

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Yes, do that for her! She will love it! The times I have been sick I would have loved nothing better than for someone to clean up for me. Maybe it will even help her get better faster.
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