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Spiritual Lessons from our sex lives (or every day life)

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Spiritual Lessons from our sex lives (or every day life)

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I know that the Holy Spirit often teaches us spiritual lessons from things out of our lives.  I thought it could be encouraging and edifying for us to share some the lessons we have learned from things in our own lives.




Here's the most recent one for me....

Real Life Story

This Christmas we had picked up some cards for "the gift of time", with some free sweet treat gift cards in them for two,  and on them you write down what you are gifting this person.  We put a card in each of our children's/grandchild's stockings.  I also made one up for my husband.  On it, I wrote that I was gifting him the time of "a "play" night (at my choosing)".

I noticed that he never said anything, and I assumed, and was correct, that he figured he already knew what it was all about, and never bother to take the card out and read it, and he was just saving the gift cards to use when needed.  I decided to not say anything and just wait to see how long it would take for him to figure it out.

Today, he wanted to talk to me and was very cautious and timid to ask and share what he was really desiring to do sexually.  He shared with me in detail what he would like to do some night.  That was when I asked him if he ever looked at his card.  "No."  I told him he might want to look at it.  I had already freely gifted to him what he had anxiously asked for.

The Spiritual Lesson

What I realized was, at salvation, we become heirs and are immediately gifted with so many things.  But yet, we don't choose to open up those gifts and learn what is ours in Christ Jesus, so we can't appropriate, or put to use, those gifts.  Then, we timidly and anxiously, if even that, go and ask the Father for things that He has already freely given.   Sometimes we won't even ask, we just become complacent with life the way it is.

 
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, to find comfort, to survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years... and then she did something new.
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@SC, nice story and application! (and we are all waiting to know how the play night goes! lol!)
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This is not from my sex life but i sometimes watch Andrew Wommack (don't agree with some of his teachings but i'm willing to learn and challenge myself if appropriate) and he was saying we ALREADY HAVE everything we need in Christ. Living that out isn't the easiest however but it really  helps to know that He has already "gifted" us with every spiritual gift from on high and beyond that, everything he has said to us, we already have in our spirit man. He said our spirit man is completely and totally redeemed, unlike our souls and bodies which are in the process but will never entirely be until Eternity, but that our Spirit is 100% redeemed and righteous.  Wow.

Even though i had a horrible example for a father (both real and step father) and i did not know what it means to be cherished and valued as a woman by a father, i CHOSE to believe that our Heavenly Father IS a good Father and i had a small breakthrough in that area.  Thankfully i have a husband that does cherish and value me, it never ceases to amaze me the man i married..and sometimes he does model that Father image to me.
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What a fresh reminder of truth for me, thanks for sharing!
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, to find comfort, to survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years... and then she did something new.
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I don't think I've had a spiritual lesson from sex yet... I'm still learning to combine my faith with that. I so appreciate what has been posted. Those messages are beautiful.

Mine comes from a museum trip my family recently took. We were able to see the King Tut exhibit while it was stateside. Almost half of what was in his tomb was on display, and it was fascinating to learn so much detail about ancient Egyptian mythology and beliefs about the soul and the afterlife. It was so much. After 2 hours, we still hadn't finished and we weren't moving that slowly.

My teen daughter became frustrated with it all at one point and said that none of it made sense, that their whole afterlife seemed stressful to her and so unlike the afterlife we hope for as Christians. I absentmindedly said something about how the ancient Egyptians were in fact the culture that Moses fought so hard to escape, and now we could see why.

Both my children and I kind of froze after that. We were surrounded by all of those artifacts, the weapons, the wealth, and symbols of power. It dawned on the 3 of us for the first time what Moses was really up against, although it was a different Pharoah. My son finally said, "Wow, Moses *really* couldn't have beat all this without God." Both my daughter and I just sort of stood there nodding, not knowing what to say. It was so overwhelming.

It just showed us how blessed we really are. The One True God that gave Moses the strength he needed to lead his people out of Pharoah's realm of ridiculous power is the same God that we worship. The one who walks our journey with us out of love for us, all for His glory. The same glory that Moses' journey brought Him. It's humbling yet beautiful at the same time. And it made those priceless artifacts look like pieces of tin foil.
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This is good!  Thanks for sharing, DG!
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Aren't those awesome aha moments?  And you had them with your kids!
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I’ve learned how much the Lord wants us to long to receive from him. I’m still trying to fully embrace this at times in our bedroom after years of thinking it was all about what I could give. I also understand better how much the bride’s desire is so important to Him. He desires real relationship which requires mutual honesty and mutual desire. It’s beautiful to me.
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Sexually speaking, I am impressed with the faithfulness of the Lord amidst my faithless attitude, diminishing trust, and sometimes frail hope. At times when I've slipped back into the 'woe is me' mentality apart from the trusting and faithful mindset of waiting on the Lord, then comes my DW's tidal wave of sexual service, devotion, and pleasure.  I am reminded of His blessing, gifts, and goodness even to me.
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